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Maria, I'm from Houston TX, and I believe there's a way for you to get your residency!..I believe that I watched TV about 1 year ago, and it happened that what i saw was that, if you at some point get physically abused by your husband, and if you got hit or something like that, you can call the police and tell them that you have a situation of domestical abuse from your husband; and the police report will be the only thing that will help you to get your legal status (residency) thru an immigration lawyer!...I hope you could get some further info with some lawyer!...

Thank all of you, guys, for your help.
I don't know how to appreciate you. You are really helpful for me.
I've got few good news. I spoke with attorney. She said, that I could not be deported, because I came in US legaly. Even if he'll get divorse, I wouldn't be deported, because he still responsible for us (he sponsored us as a fiance).
What about documents? I, honestly, don't know. Maybe somebody will help me or, like my attorney said: I can get remarried again.
What about "Assuming" & "to N":
I want to tell you, guys, few things.
I've asked a question in this page: "How can I stay in US?", but NOT:"What will be better for me: stay in US or come back home?"
"Assuming", what country you from? Let me explain the differents between life as a single mom with SKILLs in US & life as a single mom with SCILLs in my birth country: There is no education if you don't have money, there is no job at all(not only a good job) to get this money. Even if you have a 4-degree education, you have to pay "crazy" money to get some job.
The poor people in US have full refrigerator, over there people think how to make money for the next meal. And I DID look over my shoulder all my life, because of murderers & robbers.
Maybe I wouldn't have a life, but my SCILLs would.
"to N"
What about " working in McDonald's" & " how long MARIA can survive at a low wage job without catastrophe" ?
Maybe I'll find something else. I am an artist also as my kids and american people love art.

"I want to live here instead of where I come from" is not a good enough reason to be granted residency in the U.S. If it were, there would be trillions ~ literally TRILLIONS of people ~ from all over the world coming here to live and work at McDonald's. How does one afford car insurance, health insurance, a family physician, babysitters for the kids, maintenance, and the general cost of living in the U.S.A. without assistance from welfare (which an immigrant cannot receive) or some form of charity while working at McDonald's?

Also, working at McDonald's for how long? How many years can Maria survive at a low wage job (all her life?) without a catastophe? McDonald's was designed for America's students and other temporary help, and that's precisely why no one meets even poverty level while working there.

Maria, posetite ety stranichky, ne pozhaleete!
http://www.russianwomenabroad.com/our_forum/index.php
I ran into some stories like yours there & girls on the forum always helped with good advice.
Ydachi! Vstretimsya na forume/

Assuming,
I understand your point of view, coming from an American perspective.
However telling Maria to go back home may be as bad as throwing her back into abject poverty! At least here she has a chance to make something of herself - even if its working at McD's 20 hrs a week! In many countries, that is what she would earn in a month, with still the same family to take care of...

Assuming that you have family back in your country and assuming that you know so little about America, life as a single American Mom with skills, a good education, and a good job is tough enough... I can't imagine why you wouldn't be better off going back home ??? You are now illegal, and the situation is going to get even worse if you're caught. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life looking over your shoulder?

I really appreciate you, guys, for your help, advises & information.
I do not know why this man acting me, I just know one thing: he wants to get rid of me & my kids, because he's sick, wild & very greedy man.
As he said, he realized, that he doesn't wants family no more, that he needs to buy more food than for one person, that he needs to spend in 3 times more money as he used to.
I am afraid to live with him, because of my kids. I have 2 beautiful girls (14 & 17 yrs old) & he doesn't look on them as on a kids and I'm not the first person who see that. I am sure you understand what I'm saying.
Maybe he expected some kind of serves from the 3rd world. I have no idea. Sadly, that I understood this just not while ago, not before I came over in his house.
Anyway, I'm going to do something for our safety.
Thanks all of you for your help.

MARIA, is going home an option? Why is husband acting this way?

Dear Maria,

My heart goes out to you. You may not see it as such, but your husband is a drunk and a wife abuser. He has not filed any papers for you (he was supposed to do it as soon as you two were married) because he wants to keep you and your children in control. If you go to the police, he might threaten to turn you in to INS. That's how he utilizes your currently illegal status. Sadly, your story is not unique and has played itself many times in this country thanks to the blossoming business of mail-order brides. It makes no difference that he "only" abuses you verbally; it will get worse if you stay with him. It always does. check the website of National Family Violence Hotline http://www.ndvh.org/ or call them at 1-800-799-7233. They will help put you in touch with a local organization that can help you out of this mess. Those organizations have a lot of experience dealing with cases like yours and they will not only tell you how to document indicents of abuse, but will also help you find way out and arrange free legal help with your immigration status. I think what they will recommend is that you file for permanent residency as an abused woman because you are eligible to do that.

I am a volunteer for one such organization and everything I wrote here I know from talking with women like you. Do not wait.

Thank all of you for your care, understanding & advices. That's helps a lot.
Maybe y'all know some kind of WEB site, where I can find any laws for me & learn this more deeply.

You are really having a hard time and I applaud you for your courage so far. There may be a way you can go ahead with your residency application without your husbands support based on abuse - physical, sexual or other forms of abuse.
Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 for more information on VAWA. VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) is a new law available to women whose abusive husbands are US citizens or lawful permanent residents. It permits these women to obtain lawful permanaent residency without the cooperation of their husbands. Because there are limitations, FIRST speak to an immigration attorney about it.
God bless you and your family.

Sorry to hear this.

It does not seem that you can get any immigration benefits through your spouse, as he must be the one to petition for you.

You may be able to adjust status as a battered spouse. I highly doubt though that you can do it without serious legal help.

Try to find an immigration attorney ASAP.

You mean: Did he sponsored us before marriage?
Yes, ser. He did.
Thank you again!

Thank God, he doesn't know nothing about computers.
So, computer - it's my soul.

Thank you very much for your Understanding. I am so glad that somebody can help me even if we don't know each other.
No. He doesn't abuse us physically, he knows that police can burn his a.. . But he screams all the time on us, doesn't let me cook & clean and then he screams that I'm a lazy a.. . He does many many things that make me sick, but I should bite my tonque. AND, by the way, he's a big drinker. Never been married, never had no kids and he just hates mine. When I was in Ukraine, he promised to care about me & my kids. I've never seen so big jurk in my hole life.
I don't think I can save this marriage, because he wants this badly. He, also, said: if I wouldn't sigh the separation papers he'll turn my life on hell.
No. He did not sponsored me & my kids. About 3 weeks from marriage his Attorney said, that he's not really responsible for us until he fill out our papers.
I do not believe anything that he sais. It should be something. The people like us shoud have some rights. But I don't know what exactly.
So, if you, guys, will find out, what I can do in this situation, LORD!, I would never forget this.
Many thanks!