New, and need help Marriage Fraud

[adcockgreg]

I married a Immigrant and now living in Hell.

She has married to gain access to America and use and abuse the system.
She refuses to sign the divorce papers and I need help on what to do next
when dealing with the INS or obtaining an attorney.
One Attorney has already told me that "They get people in, not out".

I need some assistance.

Married and awaiting for the final Perm Status INS Meeting. She is not Perm as of yet.
Its been approx 2.5 years, and we HAVE not had the Final meeting. SHe does not have her Perm Stat Card.

I've filed for divorce, but she obtained a attorney and will not leave the Apt.
(I lost the House, Unemployed Telecom Engineer).
She is simply a Leech and refuses to do anything to assist the family and constantly
threatens me with filing Domestic Abuse charges (Totally False) to gain access
to the US. A simple argument can turn violent by her actions, and I always have to leave to defuse the situation. She is the abusive party, but threatens me with
filing and calling the police just so she can document this attempt at US citizenship.
And she has, her bruised wrist, the same wrist I grabbed to defend myself was enough
for a small charge. (Am I screwed or what ??)


Long Story Short, I want this Woman out of my life and cannot get her out.
Her attorney has advised her to NOT to sign the Divorce papers, and threatened to
Delay any and all Court Divorce actions at this time. In the mean time, she lays around the house, Refuses to work, refuses to improve her english, and basically
watches TV All day. I .. in the mean time, I have a ****** Retail Job paying hardly nothing and we are living in poor conditions. Remember, I'm an ex Telecom Engineer
that lost his Job and everything else.

I'm basically trapped. and Cannot get rid of her. And I want her out Immediately.
I've been going thru circles for over a year now, no improvements.

How do I approach the INS, Do I visit the INS office in Dallas, Walk in and tell my story or what ??

She seems to have this grand plan and its working for her so far.

I'm beside myself and going crazy. I want her out of my Life and I'm stuck with her.

No, I cannot abandon her, thats against the Law,
No, I do not have enough money to pay for her own apt, I can bearly pay
for what I'm providing. We are poor and she refuses to help... Its maddening...

The Divorce papers are filed with the County/State, but unless she signs them, I cannot kick her out. And I can't find an Attorney that wants to help me with
informing the INS.

I'm going NUTS.....


Somebody Please help me...

adcockgreg2004@yahoo.com

[adcockgreg]

I married a Immigrant and now living in Hell.

She has married to gain access to America and use and abuse the system.
She refuses to sign the divorce papers and I need help on what to do next
when dealing with the INS or obtaining an attorney.
One Attorney has already told me that "They get people in, not out".

I need some assistance.

Married and awaiting for the final Perm Status INS Meeting. She is not Perm as of yet.
Its been approx 2.5 years, and we HAVE not had the Final meeting. SHe does not have her Perm Stat Card.

I've filed for divorce, but she obtained a attorney and will not leave the Apt.
(I lost the House, Unemployed Telecom Engineer).
She is simply a Leech and refuses to do anything to assist the family and constantly
threatens me with filing Domestic Abuse charges (Totally False) to gain access
to the US. A simple argument can turn violent by her actions, and I always have to leave to defuse the situation. She is the abusive party, but threatens me with
filing and calling the police just so she can document this attempt at US citizenship.
And she has, her bruised wrist, the same wrist I grabbed to defend myself was enough
for a small charge. (Am I screwed or what ??)


Long Story Short, I want this Woman out of my life and cannot get her out.
Her attorney has advised her to NOT to sign the Divorce papers, and threatened to
Delay any and all Court Divorce actions at this time. In the mean time, she lays around the house, Refuses to work, refuses to improve her english, and basically
watches TV All day. I .. in the mean time, I have a ****** Retail Job paying hardly nothing and we are living in poor conditions. Remember, I'm an ex Telecom Engineer
that lost his Job and everything else.

I'm basically trapped. and Cannot get rid of her. And I want her out Immediately.
I've been going thru circles for over a year now, no improvements.

How do I approach the INS, Do I visit the INS office in Dallas, Walk in and tell my story or what ??

She seems to have this grand plan and its working for her so far.

I'm beside myself and going crazy. I want her out of my Life and I'm stuck with her.

No, I cannot abandon her, thats against the Law,
No, I do not have enough money to pay for her own apt, I can bearly pay
for what I'm providing. We are poor and she refuses to help... Its maddening...

The Divorce papers are filed with the County/State, but unless she signs them, I cannot kick her out. And I can't find an Attorney that wants to help me with
informing the INS.

I'm going NUTS.....


Somebody Please help me...

adcockgreg2004@yahoo.com

[cisse]

Hello adcockgreg,

Based on what you said, I would say that what you need is not a divorce attorney nor INS. You need to work things out with your wife.

If you look at your relationship from outside, this is what will come out in a nutchell: You were employed and everything was ok (I am assuming) and now that situation has changed. Trust me, even if you were married to a USC, you would run into trouble. I can understand that you are going through difficult times and you think that she's not being helpful. But as you may know, everybody does not deal with problems in the same way.

For instance, your way of dealing with this situation is to get rid of all the charges including her, be on your own and try to figure out the solutions alone.

On her side, you did not particularly mention what she has done to help you out. But was she helpful at all in the time of the roses? Did you prepare her for the rainy days or did you just enjoy being the household provider ?

The advice I would give you is to take one night alone in a hotel and look very hard at the facts and be honest with yourself.

If I were you, I would find ways to get her motivated and make her understand that with the new situation you will need to stand strong as a couple. Because after all, you did not get married just for the rose but for the difficult times too.

I wish you the best.

Cisse.

[LongTimeHere]

I am not sure, but if she is not signing divorce papers... can you hire someone to serve her? get a divorce attorney for yourself and have him/her arrange for everything. The fact she is not signing does not mean you can not get a divorce.
And ultimately, do not show up for the interview or better yet, show up, tell officer the truth and kill her chances for a GC.

[adcockgreg]

Cissie

Your reply is common. And believe me, I understand this common thought.
Whats in your mind .. Is not the case.

When things got bad, discussions were held. She laid out her very selfish demands
that she would not work. I tried and tried to find work, but things were dismal.
More conversations were held, again, she refused. In fact more and more discussions were held on what exactly had to be cut off to survive. This was a Battle.
It soon occured to me that I was in a situation with someone that did not care.

I did the best I could, but Jobs were scarce, in fact, I spent over a year unemployed.
I had one job cleaning dog Cages, tring to keep the house, and she ate Bon-bons at the house in the AC. Yes, I've cleaned Dog cages (yes I'm a Ex-Telecom Engineer), to help keep a roof over our heads.
She stil refused to work. When I mentioned we could lose the hose if she doesn't seek employment, she didn't care. Can YOU BELIEVE THAT !!!

Well, needless to say, I was sick and tired of dealing with this and threatened to Divorce if she didn't assist the family, She refused.
So I filed. Wow .. No Help there, She just doesn't have to sign.

So .. In a Nut shell .. thats it.... I have done everything humanly possible to survive and she has done absolutely nothing.

Its been over a year, almost 2 years now, and I'm so tired of living with this leech.I'm going mad. And I mean Mad.

So please,,, I'm not the bad guy here. I'm the victim....

I need assistance here folks, Not sad stories on human nature, I'm in the right.
And she is a criminal, that needs dealing with, and we have a bad situation
due to bad laws.

[Veritas]

It looks like your problem does not have much to do
with immigration. You marriage problems can happen
to any couple.

Get an attorney. Your attorney will get in touch
with the court. I think the court will set up
appointment with both you and your wife.
If your wife doesn't show up. That will be
comtempt of the court. A judge can make a judgement
on your case. However, I don't know how long
this will take.

Anyway, I think you should be able to get a divorce
regardless whether she signs it or not.

Or you can get the court to serve the papers to her.
And it doesn't matter wether she signs it or not.


Why can't you get a divorce if she desn't sign the papers?

[jc]

Get a divorce attorney to know your way around the law and like longtimehere said : "do not show up for the interview or better yet, show up, tell officer the truth and kill her chances for a GC." that's all there's to it, tell the immigration officer that she only married you to get her green card, the next thing you know her b.u.t.t. will be deported and could never come back to the US. sorry to hear about that man, been there done that but don't get frustrated, just chill and use your head real good and the outcome will be in your favor.

[adcockgreg]

Hey Folks,

Well I thought I could get some serious Help here, but you folks are no better than me
when it comes to serious Immigration insite.

Believe me. I know the simple **** law, (gee can you say that here)

And Just forget this post.

I can't even find the option to modiify my Member info so not to confuse so many of you.

This Blog needs work.


Well , this site was a waste......

C-ya.

And this site need work...!!!
Seriously...
Contact a IT guy !!!

[Still Learning]

In case you're still around all you have to do is click on "GO" at the top and "MY SPACE" and then profile, etc. I'm not sure what sort of advice you were looking for. You received advice as to what to do about immi issue. You received advice as to what to do about divorce issue. You received advice about trying to make your marriage work. What exactly do you want to do?

[swissnut]

adcockgreg:

Before continuing, let me just say that an uncooperative spouse is not necessarily a spouse who entered a marriage solely for immigration benefit. However, there may be facts which lead you to believe this, which have not been shared here. In order to gain the answers you are seeking, more information is needed.

You mentioned the INS office in Dallas, do you reside in Texas?
When did you file for divorce?
Have you lived there for the past 6 months, and in the county for at least 90 days prior to filing?
You mentioned that your wife has secured an attorney. Are you represented, or did you file for divorce without an attorney?
It is clear that your wife was served, since she has retained an attorney, so the fact that she is not willing to sign the divorce papers leads me to believe that you were going for an uncontested divorce. Is that correct?
Texas is a no-fault divorce state and has no requirement for separation, and does typically mandate mediation. Has the court scheduled a mediation conference yet?
Even if she contests the divorce, this does not mean that you cannot divorce her, did you cite irreconcilable differences when filing for divorce?
Whose name is on the lease for the apartment?
Did your wife work at all during your marriage?
Does she have any skills in order to secure employment?
Do you have children from this marriage?
When did you file the joint petition to remove conditions (I-751)?
Are you your wife's sponsor (did you sign the Affidavit of Support I-864)?
Was the incident, which resulted in the bruised wrist, reported to the police or witnessed by anyone else?
Can you take up temporary residence anywhere else (with friends, colleagues, family)?
As far as the domestic abuse allegation, if your wife is not willing to relocate or move out, I would suspect that could damage her chances of proving the threat of physical abuse, since she seems to wish to stay with you.

If you can provide, there might be options available to you.

[swissnut]

Thanks JohnDoe, you brought my attention to something I appear to have overlooked in adcock's post. I guess getting to work so early has its drawbacks!
Apparently, the incident with the bruise was reported to the police. The conflict, which resulted in police report, could open up a can of worms for adcock, especially if his wife can suggest she has no options to move away. Rendering quickly to frustration, as is evident in his last post, will not help in this situation...he needs to remain cool and collected.

[josephine schmo]

Poser.

[adcockgreg]

SwissNut

do you reside in Texas? - Yes
When did you file for divorce? - Twice Last time, Oct 2003
90 days prior to filing? - Yes
Are you represented, or did you file for divorce without an attorney?

Yes we worked up the papers, She got an attorney, worked yup there papers, now thay sit and she won't sign until she gets her Perm Stat.

uncontested divorce. Is that correct? - Yes

Has the court scheduled a mediation conference yet? - No

cite irreconcilable differences when filing for divorce? - Yes

Whose name is on the lease for the apartment? Mine

Did your wife work at all during your marriage? 2 weeks in 3 years

Does she have any skills in order to secure employment? Sec/Office/Banking Skills
Do you have children from this marriage?- Yes One

When did you file the joint petition to remove conditions (I-751)?
Have Not. What is this ??
If this is the INS solution of removing my Sponcership, is that the Form Number??

Are you your wife's sponsor - Yes

(did you sign the Affidavit of Support I-864)?

Was the incident, which resulted in the bruised wrist, reported to the police or witnessed by anyone else? - Police report yes.

Can you take up temporary residence anywhere else (with friends, colleagues, family)?
No, Very little resources...

As far as the domestic abuse allegation, if your wife is not willing to relocate or move out, I would suspect that could damage her chances of proving the threat of physical abuse, since she seems to wish to stay with you.
I agree, Its all Fabricated....The abuse stuff is made up for her INS case.

If you can provide, there might be options available to you.

[adcockgreg]

OK, Lets put this thread to bed.

Two Questions:

1) With Divorce papers Filed, and her refusing to sign. And I want her Gone.
She has no Job, Refuses to work, refuses to do anything.

Can I simply Leave, Move out and leave her.
Find myself another place. (Sure I'll pay the Child support, No problem)
I was told NO, thats abandonment.
Is that True ??

2) Removing my INS Support.

Is simply walking into the INS office and telling them my story a solution to removing my INS Support to her and getting her removed.

These are the Bottomline questions.

[swissnut]

adcock:
I don't understand how your wife can delay court process. If you filed in October 2003, the court must have placed this case on their schedule. I am not sure how one party can hold up a divorce, although one party can prevent a settlement, prior to litigation. Is that what you mean? If you filed for a divorce, hoping that the matter would be settled out of court, perhaps she wishes to contest that, but that does not mean she can prevent the divorce in a no-fault state. Texas, I believe, observes no-fault grounds.

The I-751 is the petition to remove the "conditional" nature of the green card, if the marriage is not two years old at the time of your adjustment of status interview. Since you claim your wife does not have a permanent green card yet, have you not yet filed the I-751? If that is the case, then your wife will have to delay this divorce for a substantial period of time in order to cross the last immigration hurdle, prior to becoming divorced.

Sponsorship cannot be removed during the immigration process wantonly. However, if you withdraw your petition, you can revoke sponsorship prior to requesting that "conditions" be removed, if I am not mistaken.

With a child produced from the marriage, in my opinion, it will be difficult to prove a lack of bona fide intent on behalf of your wife. Typically, USCIS considers a child sufficient proof of genuine intent.