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  • Kumna
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    Hey Hey,

    Here we go again...

    I dont think this has to do with your Husband or you being boring. Call me the specialist, but I think there is a disease I will describe for the first time: it is called ASAG, also known as American Spouse After Green Card Syndrome. Many american spouses get it once their foreign spouse obtain the green card. How does it work?

    First you meet a foreigner, them mary him/her. While you are going through the application process, you do all you can to help out. During that process, your foreigner loves you to death for standing for him/her.
    Finally, the foreigner obtains the green card. All the suddain, you realize, s/he does not need you anymore. You panic. You loved to be in position of helping, but now you cannot help really. So, out of frustration, you find the easy way out and accuse him/her of faking the whole marriage.

    What are the symptoms of ASAG?

    Symptoms upon receiving the interview letter:
    1- You expose suddain and sometimes unjustified anger.
    2- You watch too much TV or become depressed from time to time.
    3- You do not express any interest in preparing for the interview.
    4- You are bored
    5- You silently wish that the interview fails so that you can be more active again.

    Symptoms after successful interview:

    1- You are surprised that you accomplished something great
    2- You start observing the changes in the behavior of your spouse.
    3- You increasily become doubtful of the honesty of your spouse's intents before the marriage.
    4- You look for your spouse to save the relationship.
    5- You find excuses to get out of the relationship and finally divorce.

    Symptoms after divorce:

    1- You insist that USCIS (formerly INS) remove your ex-spouse from the country.
    2- You keep telling people that your spouse married you for the green card.

    How do you prevent ASAG (Vaccine)?

    Before the interview:

    A-Be honest with yourself: it is well possible that your future spouse may not have good intent, but it is also possible that you are getting into the marriage just to save your spouse from trouble with USCIS. Be sure to clear this in your mind before making any decision. This will help you alot in the future.

    B-Do not spend too much energy in helping your spouse with immigration matters: yes, I said it. This may surprise you, but trust me if you married him/her for love, stick with love. Immigration issues will come and go, but your relationship is supposed to stay. So, spend more energy in building the relationship, not fixing the immigration issues.

    C- Treat your spouse with dignity: Althoug your spouse may have language and cultural barriers, understand that we are all people. You have been in this culture most of your life, help your spouse adjust and integrate; But do it with respect.

    D- Know your spouse stage in cultural integration: A study by a leading University showed that international students go through 3 phases upon arrival to USA: first they are very impressed. Second, they realize that we are all humans, third they become angry that they are not getting the respect they deserve in the society and fourth, they settle down and relax. In other words, they become like the rest of us.

    After the interview:

    A- Stay yourself: any positive change you make after the interview will be seen by your spouse as an insult. If you were that good, you should have shown it independently of his/her immigration status.

    B- Keep the focus on the relationship: if both of you are getting bored because there is no more suspense in the relationship, be creative. Create a project that will keep both of you busy for awhile. Honestly, I cannot imagine a relationship without a project. You cannot spend time with someone just to smile at each other and laugh, there has to be something that can keep bringing you together. Otherwise, everyone will go with a different interest and the relationship will fade away.

    C- Give your spouse a little space: getting a green card can be an overwelming experience. After a successful interview, your spouse will feel incredibly empowered. Dont be jealous. Just give your spouse the space to explore the world of possibilities that just oppened to him/her. This is the hardest part because you may feel like you are loosing controle you have been used to. If you attempt to get your controle back, you will be asking for trouble. The joie and power that your spouse is experiencing is temporary. Just wait and relax. Your spouse will get his/her acts together after awhile.

    Once things return to normal: Just move on, consider that you are married to an american not a mail order bride. That will make your life much easier and you would have overcome the ASAG syndrome.

    I hope this help.

    Kumna.

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  • Hudson
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    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by noicotera:
    I am married to a Mexican citizen, his 2-years GC has exired a couple months ago, we filed and sent out whatever form was needed in response to which istead the 10-years GC he got the letter giving him permission to travel and work for the next year. But this is not what I want to write about. I have recently found that my beloved husband has interest in transsexuals. He browses the internet for them every day,in the personals section of some classifieds.I don't know wheter he meets with them or not...
    To me a man with those interests is simply a ***, should not be married to me in the first place. I did not know about it before, he mispresented himself when asking me to marry him. We have two kids together. I called INS to ask what is going to happen with this. They told me he is still to get his 10-years GC...Any advices what to do next? Any thoughts? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
    Divorce him!

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  • moondin
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    you're a jaded vindictive ex-wife. So your 'opinion' means nothing right now.

    enjoy your hateful existence.

    r

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  • Prof.
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    Noicotera,

    INS regulates many policies. However, I am not familiar with their new policy of denying immigration benefits to bi-sexuals and transvestites. If you suspected that you husband was a freak of monumental proportions, then you should have waited a year on applying for a greencard for him. This would have exposed him, and gave you a reason to send him on a greyhound to Mexico.

    For now, he is going to get his 10 yr greencard, and use it to bang women triple his age. After 3 yeard, he is going to apply for his citizenship and continue on his quest to be the world's biggest bi and trans.

    For now, flee from this man, but USCIS doesn't case, otherwise Mark Foley wouldn't be a Congressman...

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  • dragonlady
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    No, they don't care. You can divorce him - which is probably you're best bet given your feelings about him.

    You may also do a little research about transvestites. I think you may find the research interesting. Lots of men like women who are much older than them. Some men like really fat women too! Go figure.

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  • noicotera
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    Thank you for all the advices. HBKHBK I know what bi- means. You don't need to tell me. But the fact that my husband kept his interests in guys from me before we married (and still thinks I don't know) is not right. Yes I know what will you say. I know I can't expect that everyone is as honest and perfect as me. As of me calling my husband a perv, what about him browsing for women double of his age? What about browsing for teenagers as well? All normal people do this? What about him meeting and secretly contacting a woman what he had a relationship with (double of his age too and married, so he possibly could not marry her for the GC!) Yeah, yeah, maybe I am stupid, maybe I was blind and did not see it before...or rather did not want to see it. But I have their emails, I have phone conversations and cell phone record proving that he was in contact with her BEFORE and AFTER we married. In one of the messages he left her he is setting up to meet with her. Does INS do anything about this? Anybody please advice

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  • sappyconifer
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    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by uslawyer:
    You can stop him from getting 10 yr green card only if you can prove to USCIS that he married you for green card only. And in my opinion his keeping his "interests" from you at the time of the marriage is insufficient to show that he married you simply for the green card, especially in light of the fact that you have 2 children together. Therefore, in all likelihood he will still get his gc. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

    Not really accurate. She does not have to join him in securing removal of conditions. She submitted the jointly filed form I751. She could divorce right away, prior to the application being adjudicated, which would require that the joint petition be withdrawn and replaced with a waiver, filed by the alien alone. The alien husband would then be on his own to remove conditions. Whether he will be successful depends on the sufficiency and quality of the evidences that he has of a bona fide marriage.

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  • HBKHBK
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    here is my question,why the in f'n worl,would you even call "INS" makes no sence.
    Just because "he cheats on you?" or is Bi sexual or something???
    INS probabaly laugh there *** of,when you called,how emberassing.
    I could have answered the question myself,that he would anyway get his 10 year green card.
    Remember,the ONLY time,INS would consider looking into it,is when the marriage was "fake" not real,and was enetered with a scam,menaing not in good faith.
    You husband married you cause he loved you,has 2 kids with you...but probabaly had a thinbg at he same time for "men" dressed up as women or what not.He is bi sexual.
    Nothing wrong with that...its a shame you cam him a pervert...he has the right to love and like whatever he wants,if he is *** let him...
    you will never change him.
    You call him a perv like he is into little kids...lets not go over board here.But You for sure brought alot of laughter to the Immigration when you made your pathetic call lol
    sorry,but what will they think "her husband is into other guys lol - oh well"

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  • uslawyer
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    You can stop him from getting 10 yr green card only if you can prove to USCIS that he married you for green card only. And in my opinion his keeping his "interests" from you at the time of the marriage is insufficient to show that he married you simply for the green card, especially in light of the fact that you have 2 children together. Therefore, in all likelihood he will still get his gc.

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  • noicotera
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    I am married to a Mexican citizen, his 2-years GC has exired a couple months ago, we filed and sent out whatever form was needed in response to which istead the 10-years GC he got the letter giving him permission to travel and work for the next year. But this is not what I want to write about. I have recently found that my beloved husband has interest in transsexuals. He browses the internet for them every day,in the personals section of some classifieds.I don't know wheter he meets with them or not...
    To me a man with those interests is simply a ***, should not be married to me in the first place. I did not know about it before, he mispresented himself when asking me to marry him. We have two kids together. I called INS to ask what is going to happen with this. They told me he is still to get his 10-years GC...Any advices what to do next? Any thoughts?

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  • INS accepts pervs,I called about my husband he is still getting GC

    I am married to a Mexican citizen, his 2-years GC has exired a couple months ago, we filed and sent out whatever form was needed in response to which istead the 10-years GC he got the letter giving him permission to travel and work for the next year. But this is not what I want to write about. I have recently found that my beloved husband has interest in transsexuals. He browses the internet for them every day,in the personals section of some classifieds.I don't know wheter he meets with them or not...
    To me a man with those interests is simply a ***, should not be married to me in the first place. I did not know about it before, he mispresented himself when asking me to marry him. We have two kids together. I called INS to ask what is going to happen with this. They told me he is still to get his 10-years GC...Any advices what to do next? Any thoughts?
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