Dumped cheating boyfriend Can I report his attempt at marriage fraud?

[mowmow]

I dated a Turkish man for 1.5 years and we were planning to marry. He still lives in Turkey.

He said and did a few things that raised red flags for me. I've been suspicious of him the past few months and started to pay close attention to everything he said and did.

I discovered he was also seeing an English woman and trying to get her to marry him.

I dumped him (and alerted her) and now he is harassing me and has threatened to send sexually explicit (and disgusting) stuff to my minor daughter. He's been trying to reach her on the phone.

He also tried to extort $6,000 from me, but I wasn't stupid enough to fall for that. I've been completely honest and sincere with my side of the relationship, so his threats fell on deaf ears here. Extortion doesn't work when you have nothing to hide...

Anybody know how I can report him and keep him from being able to do this to another woman?

This has been terribly hurtful and shocking. I know this is a common ploy, and I kept my eyes and ears very open early on in our relationship. It really seemed as if we had a truly loving relationship. He's a good liar. But not QUITE good enough

I'm just thanking God I discovered his true motives before we started any immigration procedures or got married.

Thanks to anyone out there who can help.

[mowmow]

I dated a Turkish man for 1.5 years and we were planning to marry. He still lives in Turkey.

He said and did a few things that raised red flags for me. I've been suspicious of him the past few months and started to pay close attention to everything he said and did.

I discovered he was also seeing an English woman and trying to get her to marry him.

I dumped him (and alerted her) and now he is harassing me and has threatened to send sexually explicit (and disgusting) stuff to my minor daughter. He's been trying to reach her on the phone.

He also tried to extort $6,000 from me, but I wasn't stupid enough to fall for that. I've been completely honest and sincere with my side of the relationship, so his threats fell on deaf ears here. Extortion doesn't work when you have nothing to hide...

Anybody know how I can report him and keep him from being able to do this to another woman?

This has been terribly hurtful and shocking. I know this is a common ploy, and I kept my eyes and ears very open early on in our relationship. It really seemed as if we had a truly loving relationship. He's a good liar. But not QUITE good enough

I'm just thanking God I discovered his true motives before we started any immigration procedures or got married.

Thanks to anyone out there who can help.

[cheezy]

Sorry about your demise. U really cannot stop him from hurting another woman.Thats life hearts get broken everyday . I think u can report him on the threats of sending your child sexually explicit stuff Im not sure what good that will do if he is not in the country!!!! Good luck

[IMPENETRABLE]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">..he is harassing me and has threatened to send sexually explicit (and disgusting) stuff to my minor daughter. He's been trying to reach her on the phone. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

This is what you should be concerned with.
Sending excplicit "stuff" to "minors" is criminally prosecuted, so is threatening and extortion.
You can and should report this to authorities.

[Hudson]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Anybody know how I can report him and keep him from being able to do this to another woman?

This has been terribly hurtful and shocking. I know this is a common ploy, and I kept my eyes and ears very open early on in our relationship. It really seemed as if we had a truly loving relationship. He's a good liar. But not QUITE good enough

I'm just thanking God I discovered his true motives before we started any immigration procedures or got married.

Thanks to anyone out there who can help. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
First, your feelings are reasonable when someone discovers that the other person has either used or abused that relationship. Second, you need to be careful that you do not display revengeful attitude because you got hurt on. That puts you in the same league as your former boyfriend who is attempting to send the **** material to your daughter.

The problem is that no crime has been committed on US soil. Your ex-boyfriend is sending **** material outside the US. That means the crime is being committed outside US jurisdiction. You were not married when the incident occured, so there is no marriage fraud.

If your daughter lives with you, make your phone number unlisted and change your phone number. Change also your e-mail address as well. If your daughter does not live with you, then both of you have unlisted phone numbers and block all e-mail addresses that are not known in your contact list.

[sappyconifer]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Hudson:

If your daughter lives with you, make your phone number unlisted and change your phone number. Change also your e-mail address as well. If your daughter does not live with you, then both of you have unlisted phone numbers and block all e-mail addresses that are not known in your contact list. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

I agree, this is the best course of action. Prevent further contact. Alternatively, if you believe you wish to be proactive, ayou can alert the new GF that your testimony would be available in future if she pursues a visa and finds herself in unfortunate circumstances.

[dmartmar]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I dated a Turkish man for 1.5 years. He still lives in Turkey. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Are you for real or just highly delusional?

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I'm just thanking God I discovered his true motives before we started any immigration procedures or got married. Can I report his attempt at marriage fraud? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Yeah, you must be delusional. Report marriage fraud w/o a marriage.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">He's been trying to reach her on the phone.

He also tried to extort $6,000 from me. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Trying and accomplishing are two different things. So far, his attempts haven't been successful.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Prevent further contact. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

This is the most practical and logical common sense solution, or so I would think.

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I dumped him AND ALERTED HER.

So now he is harassing and threatening me with sending sexually explicit and disgusting stuff to my minor daughter, but his threats fall on deaf ears. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Not only did you dump him, you also alerted his mistress and now want to report him too. Your actions have caused his reactions!