what if family was not urs?

hi,

i just found out that my aunt who brought me here(u.s.) brought me here as her "son." yes, she adopted me but i was never her 'son.' i didn't speak english back then(i was only seventeen) and no one asked me whether she was my mother or not.

could be in trouble? i don't want to be deported because i sort of grew up outside my country(i lived in refugee camps five years before i came to the u.s.) so what do i do???

please answer.

thanks,

adam.

hi,

i just found out that my aunt who brought me here(u.s.) brought me here as her "son." yes, she adopted me but i was never her 'son.' i didn't speak english back then(i was only seventeen) and no one asked me whether she was my mother or not.

could be in trouble? i don't want to be deported because i sort of grew up outside my country(i lived in refugee camps five years before i came to the u.s.) so what do i do???

please answer.

thanks,

adam.

oh i forgot to say that the adoption was not like the adoption here. she just called my mother and my mother let her keep me until i was old enough to be on my own(which was like eighteen.) thanks.


adam.

LIVE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT A PROBLEMS DONT CALL THE ATTENTION OF NOBODY.....NOW YOU ARE HERE WHAT ELSE CAN YOU DO. IF YOU SAID DONT WANT TO RETURN TO YOUR COUNTRY..AND DONT WORRY UNTIL YOU HAVE PROBLEMS,,,,,,

Well, I somewhat agree with the above statement, you are here and nobody is the wiser as of yet, which is great!!! However, I would recommend that you don't make the same mistake that my husband and I did: double check everything with a lawyer.

It might cost you a couple bucks, but they have to keep client attorney confidentiality, and they can give you better advice than pretty much anyone (that way you can be prepared in any case, and if it isn't too difficult you might even be abole to clarify the situation)

Either way good luck to you.

i feel bad. i don't know if i'd have come had i knew it was that way. i have conflicted feelings. on the other hand, i was in a bad place -- living in refugee camps that were nothing of life. no education. nothing. i was separated from my biological family and lived with from relative-to-relative until i found my aunt(who brought me here.)

now i feel like my life in america has been all a lie. i went to high school here and now going to college. i pratically grew up here. i have no desire whatsoever to go back to my homeland(i don't even remember it much.)

guest said there are a lot of people in my situation. where are they? i never hear anything from such people. i have been searching search-engines all week, trying to find any similar cases nothing.

and the lady above, can you please share what happened to your husband? thanks.


adam.

basically, we didn't check with a lawyer in time to really understand anything or its consequences, or even what could have been done. My husband (at that time boyfriend) was in the States illegally, but we wanted to rectify the situation, and I wanted to meet his family. We thought we could go to his country and that he would be able to re-enter on his multiple entry visa, but he was deported during his attempt to re-enter the country. He now has a 5-year bar that we are trying to get waived. If we had talked to a lawyer, we might have decided to get married in the USA (there was an amnesty law at the time), I could have traveled to his country alone, or more likely (because I really wanted to see him in his home country before I married him) we could have travelled there, and I could have returned alone. We would have waited approximately three months and he would have been in the country on a fiance visa - now it has been over a year and half since he has been in the country.

At least when we are finished with this process we will be 100% clear... besides I believe that there are reasons for everything that happens...

Basically, we just would have understood our options and the consequences a lot better if we hadn't been too stupid or too afraid to talk to a lawyer.

One consultation will give you enough information to make a well (or at least better) educated decision.

Good luck to you.

spouse, thank you.


aren't there any lawyers here? i wish someone would give me some legal advice.


adam.

relax,
i don't think it even matters. your aunt brought
you here legal and you always have been legal.
there's information on something like that on the ins website ins.dosj.gov i can't remembr exactly the address is its wrong to yahoo.com and on search type ins itll give you a list and you want to search for info on immigration. the websiten lists a whole bunch of petitions to bring relative to the us under certain conditions. your aunt is a rlative i mean unless on the paper she listed you as her son when she applied to enter the country but she wouldve had to prove that too. that's all i can tell you unless someone else puts up something that proves me wrong.
good luck!

roxy,

my aunt was with me when we came here. she did list me as her son. and, i guess, technically, i was her son(she adopted me, even though 'illegally' but then there was no form of government in my country.)



adam.

anyone else?


adam.