New to America is tearing the companies for a job: this person goes to interviews almost every week: now, he definitely does not like to wear suits when going down there to be interviewed since it is part of his philosophy that he "does not dress for success - he thinks for it" (his words)
When being interviewed for a position in the entertainment business, do you guys think even a leather jacket would do? Or conservative colors in various shades of blue/gray are still the best ones?
Its depends on what kind of leather jacket he choosed. As long its look nice and clean it will be okay. For interview at the entertainment company, that might be a cool attire. But do not over done! Simple and nice is the key word.
If "new to America" is trying to get a job at a motorcycle store or a bar, sure, a leather jacket will just do!
For a woman the leather jacket would not sound THAT bad, but for a man it'd be like having him go and look for fun ... make him look like he's not serious ...
I'm an employer who interviews many people. A leather jacket would be appropriate if it was a dressy jacket and worn with nice slacks a nice shirt and dress shoes, however, if the jacket looked "like a biker" or too casual it would very inappropriate, even in the entertainment world. Good luck.
And actually I thought so ... you are way too witty for that not to have been the case; however just on the off chance he really were saddled with that nick I guess they didn't want to offend him by joking about it!!
"clubs" -- The typical perception others have of the biker lifestyle is that of a tall, leather jean-clad muscular male with tattoos on both arms riding a Harley down the highway. If his "old lady" is with him, then she is probably dressed the same way and looking just as tough.
Don't let appearances fool you.
These are real people and they have the same basic needs as all of us. They are simply living a different kind of lifestyle -- one that includes big Harley cycles, "hawgs," "wenches," and regular trips to biker meets all over the country and even the world. Bikers are private about their relationships and one must be associated with the culture to understand the beauty of love in the wind. Although, it is true that bikers and their "old ladies" are not as open about their relationships, one can gain insights into how they relate to each other when considering the whole of their culture. The sight of two sleeveless leather-jacketed figures on a Harley motorcycle is not uncommon. Their manner of dress, speech, and attitudes are purposely designed to skirt the edges of the law and accepted behaviour. This carries over into their primary relationships as well.
Another interesting aspect of bikers has to do with the names they choose for themselves. Each couple is known to other bikers by such nicknames as BadBiker69 & HarleeQwin, HDBadass & SmackMe, BlastMe & RubyRider, and Drifter & Boxie.
Their Sexual Rolls...
Females are expected to be submissive to their male counterparts. The more brash and "bitc*y," the better. Whether it's flashing their breasts at large gatherings of bikers or simply hanging on to their men while riding together, Harley women are more than willing to behave as expected in this unique subculture. Yet, bikers still do many of the things that others do when it comes to mixing the two sexes together. For example, the Kentucky Motorcycle Association sponsors an annual "Biker Ball Halloween Bash." Special prizes are given to the club with the largest representation as well as the best decorated bike. There you have it -- bikers enjoy dancing, too.
Their Shared Love for the Road...
Couples that change travel plans every day. They dream and fantasize about new places to visit, places to settle down for a while, and job opportunities that will take them to remote and exotic places. Most of it are dreams, but lately they have surprised ourselves by converting some of them to reality. Traveling is definitely in their blood. The two elements of travel and getting together with other bikers is what drives this culture. Couples relate to each other based on the accepted behaviour, attitudes, and morals of the group. In this case, males represent being macho to the extreme and females respect their men by demonstrating a tough exterior, although submissive to them at all times.
Their Shared Experience...
Bikers are a breed unto themselves. Their lifestyle is clearly defined by their clothing, the way they relate to each other, and their love of the open road; not to mention their motorcycles. A biker could never relate to a woman who was not willing to be his old lady and share the lifestyle with him. Conversely, biker babes are drawn to men who are deeply involved in the culture. Still, as in all types of primary relationship groups, there is much variation. Just as there are those couples whose relationship is marked by violent behaviour, there are many more who truly love and respect each other. It's simply one more way that men and women share their interests and lifestyles. It's how they relate best -- the joy of experiencing together "the beauty of love in the wind."
Yea right, Amy...cut the sh*t and say it as it is: leather culture involves first and foremost **** -- "bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism" It describes a form of sexual behavior involving amongst other things sexual sado-masochism in a context that is sometimes referred to as SSC (safe, sane and consensual) though others prefer Risk Aware Consensual K.i.n.k.
That is to say, **** is not sexual abuse, which is non-consensual. In the past, most sado-masochistic activities and fantasies were regarded by psychiatrists as resulting from mental disorder. Recently, most psychiatrists have decided that **** activities and fantasies are not normally symptomatic of mental disorder. **** activities are practiced by individuals of all sexualities: male and female, g.a.y or straight. Many practice their **** activities exclusively in private, and do not share their predilections with others. Others socialize with other **** practitioners. The **** community can be regarded as a subculture within mainstream society.
Some sources estimate the prevalence of **** behavior in countries such as the United States at around 5 - 10% of the adult population. While the stereotype of heterosexual **** is a male dominant and female submissive, the reality is almost evenly split between "male-dom" and "fem-dom" couples. **** is often lumped in with sexual fetishism and the fetish subculture. Some **** players are polyamorous, or are sexually monogamous but engage in non-sexual play with others.
Traditional attitudes to **** activities regarded it as deviant behaviour indulged in only by sexual psychopaths. Given the popularity of ****, this is far from the truth. However, there are a very small minority of people who are sexual abusers using **** as a cover for their activities. Some **** activities may be potentially dangerous if appropriate precautions are not taken. This is particularly true of activities involving bodily fluids, where hygienic precautions should be taken to avoid the spread of STDs.
**** "sensation play" often involves applying controlled' stimulus to the human body so that it reacts as if it were actually hurt. This releases pleasurable endorphins, creating a sensation somewhat like runner's high or the afterglow of ******, sometimes called "flying". The sensation is related to but distinct from pain. Some writers use the term "body stress". This feeling is the motivation for many in the **** community but is not the only motivating factor; a strong minority of **** participants (especially bottoms) may well participate in a scene they do not derive any physical pleasure from in order to provide their top with an opportunity to indulge their desires or fetishes. In some kinds of **** play, the 'top' (usually a dominant partner) applies sensation to the 'bottom' (usually a submissive partner) by spanking, slapping, pinching, stroking or scratching with fingernails, or using implements like straps, whips, paddles, canes, knives, hot wax, ice, clothespins, bamboo skewers, etc. The sensation of being bound with rope, chains, straps, cling wrap, handcuffs or other materials can also be part of the experience. The tools of **** play encompass a wide variety of items from specifically designed implements to ordinary household items, known as "p.e.r.v.ertables". Creating a pleasurable **** experience has a lot to do with a competent top and the bottom being in the right state of mind. Trust and sexual arousal help a person prepare for the intense sensation. For some, **** play can be compared to music, with each sensation like a note. Different sensations are combined in different ways to produce the total experience.
Much **** play involves power and dominance, in particular power exchange of various forms. One person may willingly and consciously hand over personal autonomy or the power dynamic may arise between the parties in the relationship as an spontaneous result of their interpersonal chemistry in which case no conscious decision is made. This power can manifest in an endless variety of relationship dynamics. Some of the variations include:
- addressing another person as "Master" or "Mistress" for a ten-minute scene.
- a witnessed, formal collaring with a lifelong agreement between the parties for the dominant to micro-manage the submissive's life.
- an agreement of service that covers the duties and responsibilities of the submissive that may or may not include a long term commitment. Some service relationships are understood to last only as long as the submissive maintains performance standards.
For a majority of those who engage in **** the power exchange is always negotiated. Before play, the participants discuss their physical and psychological limitations, establish safewords and work out what will happen. There is also an active minority in the **** community who does not engage in extensive negotiation and eschews the use of safewords preferring instead to accept heightened risk in exchange for what for them is a more natural interaction with their partner. A submissive person usually enjoys being controlled by a dominant. Reasons for this may include relief from responsibility, being the object of attention and affection, gaining a sense of security, showing off endurance or working through issues of shame. For others it is simply a 'natural' feeling when they are in the presence of their partner with no specific reward. What are known as service oriented submissive may also have a deep seated desire to be 'of use'. A dominant person enjoys being in control of a submissive person. Reasons for this include demonstrating skill and power, having ownership of another person, being the object of affection and devotion. This may be the fashion in which the dominant feels most comfortable expressing and/or receiving affection. Service-oriented dominants would add that it is obviously useful to have the resources and abilities of another human at their disposal. **** may or may not involve age roleplaying. How dominant or submissive a person may be in their regular life does not always determine their preferred role in **** play though many people do manifest these tendencies. **** play often includes the psychological pleasure of fetishes.
Some sources claim that ****, as a distinct form of sexual behaviour, originated at the beginnings of the 19th century, when Western civilization began medically and legally categorizing sexual behaviour. Other sources say that ****-like behaviour occurs in many other societies, such as the medieval flagellants or the physical ordeal rituals of some Native American societies. Although the names of the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch are attached to the terms sadism and masochism respectively, their lives are now regarded as examples of sexual and mental dysfunction, rather than precursors of modern consensual ****. Much of the **** ethos can be traced back to g.a.y male leather culture, which grew out of post-WWII biker culture. This subculture is epitomized by the Leatherman's Handbook by Larry Townsend, published in 1972, which essentially defined the "Old Guard leather" culture. This code emphasized strict formality and fixed roles (i.e. no switching), and did not really include ******* women or heterosexuals. Another source is the sexual games played in brothels, which go back into the 19th century if not earlier. **** ideas and imagery have existed on the fringes of Western culture throughout the 20th century. In the mid-90s, the Internet provided a way of finding people with specialized interests around the world and communicating with them anonymously. New Guard leather subculture appeared around this time, as a reaction to the restrictions of Old Guard style. New Guard, or new leather, embraced switching and often combined spirituality with their play. The expansion of **** also coincided with the spread of AIDS. Some writers have suggested that one of the appeals of **** is it's a form of sexuality that does not (necessarily) involve body fluids and therefore has reduced risk of disease. **** and fetish imagery has spread out into the mainstream of Western culture through avant-garde fashion, the gothic subculture, rap, hip-hop and heavy metal video clips, and science fiction television and movies. The modern **** subculture is widespread. Most major cities in North America and western Europe have clubs and play parties, as well as informal, low-pressure gatherings called munches. There are also conventions like Living in Leather and Black Rose.
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