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Thread: I need advice.

  1. #1
    My girlfriend and I have been together for two years now. She is on a F-1 visas and she graduated last year (May 2006). She was able to obtain a working permit, that will expire in May 2007. Her boss doesn't want to file a working permit for her. Since I am a U.S. citizen I convince her to get married so I can file papers for her. The problems we face are:

    1. She lives in NY and I live is boston. Will that cause a problem?

    2. We don't want our family to know about the marriage; because we don't want them to think we did it for papers. So, we are just going to City Hall and get married and won't tell any family members. How should we present such case to the immigration interviewer?
    I hope you will be able to answer my questions or point me to the direction where I can get the answers. Thank you very much for your help.

  2. #2
    Please don't take this the wrong way, but you MIGHT have self esteem issues. You identify your self as "Dr" and then admit that you have to manipulate a situation to get married. You can not be a good partner in marriage if you are not ok with yourself. If the green card is part of the marriage-decision equation then it is all of the equation. Kind of like in mathematics when you add a negative number to an equation, the whole equation becomes negative.

    If she loves you then she will stay with you regardless of her immigration status...right? I suggest you help her find another job where they will support a status change from F-1 to H-1 or help her go to graduate school and continue in F-1 status. Both are less costly and easier than obtaining the green card.

    You can be in for a world of hurt if you marry someone whose main intention is to get the green card. I think the best thing for a USC who is going to start a relationship with a non immigrant is to say the following : I am a permanent resident not a citizen (say you came here as a child and never got the paperwork filed). If they love you for you this won't matter. However, if what they want is a green card, you will never see them again as a green card base on marriage to a permanent resident takes forever.

  3. #3
    I understand your advice. I was going to marry her but ask her to file for an F-1 extension. By the time she is done with her graduate program, we will be married for at least 2 years and she can move to Boston. Do you think that is a better course of action.

  4. #4
    My the way I am using such alias, Dr.lavoisier, it is because I got the nickname when I was in chemistry class in high school. No self-esteem problem, just a nickname.
    Originally posted by Sugarpuff:
    Please don't take this the wrong way, but you MIGHT have self esteem issues. You identify your self as "Dr" and then admit that you have to manipulate a situation to get married. You can not be a good partner in marriage if you are not ok with yourself. If the green card is part of the marriage-decision equation then it is all of the equation. Kind of like in mathematics when you add a negative number to an equation, the whole equation becomes negative.

    If she loves you then she will stay with you regardless of her immigration status...right? I suggest you help her find another job where they will support a status change from F-1 to H-1 or help her go to graduate school and continue in F-1 status. Both are less costly and easier than obtaining the green card.

    You can be in for a world of hurt if you marry someone whose main intention is to get the green card. I think the best thing for a USC who is going to start a relationship with a non immigrant is to say the following : I am a permanent resident not a citizen (say you came here as a child and never got the paperwork filed). If they love you for you this won't matter. However, if what they want is a green card, you will never see them again as a green card base on marriage to a permanent resident takes forever.

  5. #5
    You have to stick to your resolve. The F-1 requires one to be a full time student. She will argue that a green card will allow her to have a more flexible schedule.

    The more she talks about immigration with you the less she is talking about being with you in my opinion.

  6. #6
    I was exactly in the same situation 5 years ago. After graduated from university, I got a work permission valid for one year and my company did not want to support my working permit after that. I told my boyfriend my problem and he suggensted me that I extend F1 visa and go to master course. I extended F1 visa since there was no other way. At that time we have dated for 3 years and we were planing to get married in the future. Also, both of us knew how much it would cost if I go to master course. I often tried not to think why he wanted me to extend F1 instead of filing paper for marriage. I felt really sad because I would do paper work for him if he were in my situation. At the last semester of master course, we bought a house and he proposed me. When he proposed me, I was really surprised at the fact that I was not happy, rather somehow I felt anger towards him. I felt he proposed me now because he knew I would graduate soon and start working on my own with a working visa granted after the course. We dated almost 4 years and I ended the relationship since it was difficult for me to remove the doubt. This is from my experience. If you are not sure if you will have a future with her at the moment, do not marry. If you belive you want a future togher with her, then file for the paper.

  7. #7
    WHY IS THIS DUDE POSTING THE SAME POST AGAIN????

    you'll get the same responds from us as before.

    Fraudsters will not establish anything, your g-f will be sent home,one way or the other.PERIOD!

  8. #8
    Hey Chizuki,

    If you really loved this person you would not judge him for trying to protect himeself. Green card motivated marriages can devistate people if they do not work out.

    If you were not a selfish person you would not demand others rearrainge their lives to suit you

    If you had more self esteem, you would would have decided from the beginning that you and you alone would be responsible for your immigration status. This means the ONLY option you would have pursued would have been student status to H status to employer sponsored green card.


    I think it is best that you ended the relationship, but I think it is a shame that you blame your former boyfriend for not wanting to sponsor your visa.

    In todays world many many people are truly victimized by people who use "love" and marriage as a means to a green card. Your boyfriend probably thought that if you loved him, it would not matter how you got the green card.

    I hope you are indeed better off now without him, but I do think he is better off without you

  9. #9
    Chizuki,
    Did you have to go back to your country to extend your F1 visas. What paperwork did you have to file.

  10. #10
    Dr. Lav

    She needs to go back the U.S embassy in her country to extend F1 visa. To extend it, she will need to bring I-20 from the school. Good luck.

    Hi sugarpuff,

    I don't know what is right and wrong on this matter. I just wrote down how I felt when I was in that situation. If I am sure I will be with this person for the rest of my life, it does not matter when to marry. If I am not sure about the future with the person, then I won't do it, I won't be in the relationship.

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