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    Hello .
    my friend and I decided to get married .he has a green card but I overstayed my j-1 visa 2 years ago . i 'm afraid that i won't be eligable to get visa since I overstayed visa or it will take a long long time until i will be legal again . I don't want to go back to my country (eastern europe) ..so i don't know if we should get married or rather not , is it conveninent...
    Please help me if you guys have any information about this..
    thanks
    bubu

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    Hello .
    my friend and I decided to get married .he has a green card but I overstayed my j-1 visa 2 years ago . i 'm afraid that i won't be eligable to get visa since I overstayed visa or it will take a long long time until i will be legal again . I don't want to go back to my country (eastern europe) ..so i don't know if we should get married or rather not , is it conveninent...
    Please help me if you guys have any information about this..
    thanks
    bubu

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    • #3
      First of all your friend who is a green card holder can not help you.Spouses of green card holders must wait years before coming to the US. You are only pardoned if you are married to a US citizen.

      Secondly unless you are marrying for love, you idea is illegal.

      Maybe someonel else on the board can assist you with adjusting status, or perhps you can speak to a lawyer on what you options may be.

      Goodluck.

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      • #4
        Now you understand why people from Romania have such a difficult time getting visas, the abuse rate is far too high...sounds like you were a "camp counselor" who dropped out of school to stay in the US, and now wish to enter into a marriage of convenience to stay. But green card holders do not have the same privileges as US citizens.

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        • #5
          I was just looking back at posts from days long gone and unsurprisingly, things never change........you still have the same assholes trying to con their way into this country.

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          • #6
            I cannot beleive you can actually come here and place judgment upon people that you have never met.

            Paddy - aren't you the same person who in another post said that you have dual Irish and UK citizenship and have no intention of giving up either? Well, I know that dual citizenship with those countries is considered acceptable... but I really haven't heard about triple citizenship... have you?

            Secondly, you are an embarrassment to any Irish ancestors that you (and I) may have - those that fought for Irish independence (and understood oppression and unjust laws) and people that fled from the potato famine (trust me they were not as welcome here as you are today!!)

            Perhaps you have chosen the name Paddy, not because you are Irish, but because it was considered a slur, and you don't really like the Irish that dared to immigrate the US when they were not wanted here!

            Bubu - if you are in love get married... do not let US laws stop that... it does take a long time for an LPR to request their spouse, but LPR's are also eventually eligible for citizenship.

            Also, it may go quicker since you are already here.

            Finally, in case it is necessary LPR's are able to file for the I-601 waiver (for an overstay)

            I would recommend that you check with a lawyer or with an immigration official - being unlawfully here does not stop you from being protected if you talk to a lawyer!!!

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            • #7
              Don't forget that he/she may be subjected to the 2 yr residency requirement since he/she came on a J-1. Even when the LPR friend eventually becomes a citizen.

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              • #8
                Marriage is a big decision and there are a lot of things that you should take into account when deciding whether to marry someone or not, but immigration is definately not one of those things. If you want to spend the rest of your life with the person, through the better and the worse, than marry him. Getting married doesn't always help immigration situations, but it doesn't usually make them any worse, either. Don't let the BCIS control your love life!! I have to deal with a lot of crap because my husband is illegal, but I still don't regret marrying him, because I love him and he is a good husband dedicated to keeping our marriage healthy. Immigration didn't have anything to do with us getting married. We knew before tying the knot that he is subject to the 10 year bar etc etc etc. Love transcends bureaucratic boundaries.
                Have a nice day

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                • #9
                  I wanted to reply but couldn't say anything better than Gluhbirne already did.
                  Good luck <bubu>

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                  • #10
                    Well Spouse, you get my vote for the award of most ignorant, uninformed and dumbass post of 2004.......yes you even beat the front runners Michael and NP!!!!!

                    Well where do I start....first of all either you are as blind as bat or your illiteracy knows no bounds. Where in Bubu's post does it mention that she wants to marry for love?.....that's right ****ING NO WHERE....In fact she paints a completely different picture simply by using the word "convenient"...even the person who replied to her picked up on that........did bubu send any additional replies to elaborate further? .......no because she realized that someone had caught her out.......love is never convenient unless you are trying to commit visa fraud......spouse your imagination is running wild so please stick it back in your anal cavity where it belongs along with your brains and ignorance.

                    To Gluhbirne, Dom and E. why don't you actually take the time to read what I said in my post. I was making a simple point that "things never seem to change" especially when it comes to possible visa fraud as is possible in the case of bubu. LOOK AT THE DATE OF BUBU'S POST........so E you were encouraging someone to break immigration law that has by now either gone back to eastern europe or has found another "friend" to marry who is a US citizen or has joined the mexican underground.

                    Right back to the Spouse.....My god your imagination is rampant now..I had to laugh at this.....

                    ".... you are an embarrassment to any Irish ancestors that you (and I) may have"

                    How can you make such a pathetic statement like this and not even know anything about your own ancestors. For all we know, Nasa is currently looking for evidence of your ancestors on Mars. Your ignorance shocks me.

                    As for me, my mother who is Irish, traced her ancestors back well past the era of the famine.....and what the **** do you know about Ireland and its history anyway.........have you ever set foot on irish soil....I doubt it....you probably haven't set foot outside of your swamp let alone fly to the shores of the emerald isle.

                    With regards to triple citizenship it is irrelevant as long as I use my US citizenship when i get it, as the first and foremost citizenship. My situation is not unusal in the UK where my mother is Irish and my father is British thus allowing me to hold dual nationality. Also a lot of the irish in Northern Ireland have dual nationality so the idea of triple nationality is not new Spouse but of course you would know all that.....NOT
                    I think had I gone to Canada and got citizenship and then moved to the US and applied for citizenship then I might of had a problem with the USCIS.

                    Anyway I am very proud of my Irish and British roots so when I use the name Paddy on this board it is because that is my actual nick name that my friends call me and not a slur Spouse........god your bullshit spouse is completely out of control.........perhaps we ought to call you amoeba because you obviously hate your roots.

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                    • #11
                      I, Spouse, hereby proclaim myself to be madly and passionately in love with my spouse!!! I affirm that our marriage is not based in any way shape and/or form on immigration issues, and that I would like to bear his children... if G-d finds it "convenient".

                      Hiya dear friend Paddy, glad to hear you aren't using that term as a slur... (although nowadays it isn't so common).

                      Just checking on the triple citizenship... I have never heard of it, and wondered if you had checked it with the US government, and using your logic, I will have to assume that you did not (as you did not mention checking it with the government)

                      As you are concerned about the US government, so am I when I ask if you can have triple citizenship... I have no doubt, and never had any doubt as to whether or not GB/UK and Ireland allowed for dual citizenship... it was the third variable (i.e. the USA, that I was asking about)

                      Clarification - My question is not whether dual citizenship ok (btw USA/IRE, UK/IRE, or UK/USA)-it is "Is it ok to have citizenship to three countries... the USA, Eire, and the UK?"

                      As for Ireland... it is truly a beautiful country, I have been there a number of times, and my father holds citizenship. I would like to claim, as many many Irish do, that somewhere in the mix of things I have a great great aunt Grainne... but I have to admit, we have only made it back so far in our family tree (and, yes, we have even visited our long lost relatives in Ireland...) But I am born an American, and therefore, know a bit about the history of the Irish on these shores as well, and let me tell you... they really weren't all that welcome when they first began to step off the boats.

                      As for bubu... well, I guess this is the difference between us. I tend to believe in the good of people (especially if they haven't indicated otherwise). Bubu did not mention being madly in love, but I did not know it was a requirement to write "I am madly in love" at the beginning of each post... I hope that the beginning of my post is appropriate to you - is there anything I am leaving out?

                      Additionally, I agree 100% with Glühbirne - who expressed it very eloquently... Marry for a million reasons that involve love, but never marry for immigration purposes!

                      Also, the original poster may have been born in a country that is not fluent in English (I will assume that you are aware that some people were not born in countries where English is the native language) and may have been trying to express concern for the other person, the intended spouse, in my mind this is an indication of affection and concern for the other persons well-being... not necessarily a proclamation of intent to deceive (and by your standards the fact that the person did not declare an intent to decieve, should make it clear that there is no intention to deceive)

                      As for answering the posters question... albeit late, other people are very likely to see this post... why not give them some useful information rather than simply bashing people over the head with insults (as you seem to be so adept at doing - for reference please see your previous post!!)

                      [This message was edited by Spouse on February 17, 2004 at 11:02 PM.]

                      [This message was edited by Spouse on February 17, 2004 at 11:07 PM.]

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