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    Folks - Met a Philippine woman online, visited her few times and now thinking of getting married. She has asked me to get K1 process started.

    My close friends and family are cautioning me as this is an International Marriage. Have been doing some research and finding some disturbing information.

    If you have any knowledge, care to to share how Philippine women are? Are Philippine people fraud? Have been reading some IMBRA and VAWA stories not sure what the legislation means but will research it. What I am interested to know is how probable it is I might get duped for immigration scam? Anybody here married to Philippine woman? Pros/cons?

    I am White 39, she is 23.

  • #2
    All women are frauds.

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    • #3
      One really never knows what other person has in mind; from Philippine or not.

      The following tactic has been suggested: - one day you just say to her: "listen darling, I've been thinking--- I would like to move to your country. I like it, and you can stay close to your family..., can you check the immigration process and start looking for a place for us to live?"

      ...be serious about that plan but also give her some time to get used to the idea. It may answer your question: does she want to be with you or just in the USA?

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      • #4
        I am White 39, she is 23.

        Lucky You!

        Philippinos are just like everybody else, some good some bad. Chances are she would make a superb wife.

        Nobody can tell you she's good or not good. She is a person, so is Mother Teresa and Jack the ripper. You need to use your own brain, and your own heart.
        ........................................................
        Michael: Father of the Idiot

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        • #5
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          • #6
            Originally posted by Michael?:
            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I am White 39, she is 23.

            Lucky You!

            Philippinos are just like everybody else, some good some bad. Chances are she would make a superb wife.

            Nobody can tell you she's good or not good. She is a person, so is Mother Teresa and Jack the ripper. You need to use your own brain, and your own heart. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

            Very well said

            My suggestion would be get to know her well before making any decisions..would say the same wherever she came from.
            Aneri gave good advice, often the response to that can give you some idea.
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            • #7
              Is this not another ID of MIR?

              Just in case you're a real poster and not some other fake ID - I agree with the answers of Aneri, Sprintie and Michael (Michael with the box at the end). I'm reposting NHF's post before:

              Top 13 signs you're being scammed by your mail-order bride:

              1. Does not share in expenses
              2. Unwillingness to sign pre-nuptial agreement
              3. Unwillingness to have children
              4. Lazy/Does not work
              5. Goes to school at your expense
              6. Has male friends from home country; Previous marriages/Divorces
              7. If she is already in the U.S. -check criminal record and public records for any convictions or judgements
              8. Infidelity and begs for forgiveness (Absolute deal breaker)
              9. Has arguments over nothing
              10. Looks for trouble, starts fights, calls police
              11. Acts cold, especially after immigration interview
              12. Asks for money – THESE ARE ALWAYS SCAMS
              For sister's abortion
              For mother's life saving operation
              13. Asks for your trust despite inconsistent stories
              (maybe look elsewhere for a non-fraudulent mate...)




              More questions for you:

              1. Is she asking money from you? I would think that if she has any integrity at all, considering your current situation of being in a mere relationship, she wouln't ask money from you, EVER.
              2. Is she highly-educated? If she can't even speak English and with correct grammar, how can there be good communication between the two of you?
              3. Is she able to support herself or just relying on you to help her financially?
              4. Is there too much age discrepancy between the two of you? (in your case, I think that's a bit too much, just my personal opinion though).

              Most importantly,
              5. Internet dating/online romances are just too risky - why do you even want to consider it? Divorce rate here in the US is 50% and most of them, I would assume, are between Americans. A successful marriage between an American and a non-American entails hard work and high-level maturity, among others between both of you.

              Bottomline rule, as in any other relationship, whatever country your partner is from, is to use your head, not your heart.
              Do all the good you can, in all the ways you can, as long as ever you can.

              --John Wesley

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Mrs. B.:Bottomline rule, as in any other relationship, whatever country your partner is from, is to use your head, not your heart.
                When it comes to making decisions in relationships with women, I always use my head !!!

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                • #9
                  This is one thing I'm finding hard to understand. Marrying someone from a far-off place, or from anywhere for that matter, carries with it the inherent seeds of both benefits and risks. The relationship could either work correctly or incorrectly in the long run. If it does, you either sing praises or fall silent. If it doesn't, you spew hate and blame the world. Marriage doesn't take place unilaterally, but by a mutual understanding of two consenting parties. Ask yourselves then why you have to moon-light for your significant others outside of your shores rather than from your own backyard in the first place. Either way, you should assume the consequences in the end. Don't come here to hate and weep. There's too much of it in the world outside already.

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                  • #10
                    An old (but wise) saying "Before marriage, go into it with eyes wide open. After it, leave them half closed"
                    "What you see in the photograph isn't what you saw at the time. The real skill of photography is organized visual lying."

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                    • #11
                      The fact that you're asking about "personality based on citizenship" is the one thing you should be worried about.

                      If you can't see the person for what the person is, if you're not willing to see the good and bad of that person as an individual, then you should stay away. If you go into marriage with these things in your head then, the minute you have an argument you will bring up the "green card" issue and then you'll end up like many others here feeling "used" and trying to manipulate the law to seek revenge.

                      There are scammers, good people and stupid people in the US, the Philippines, China, England and Zimbabwe. People will forever be people and citizenship has nothing to do with character.

                      If you're not ready to look at people for what they are and not what kind of passport they hold, then stay away from this immigration thing and go marry your local high school girlfriend.

                      The law is not designed to even consider issues like yours, and be ready, the law will not create a situation of a husband and a wife are on equal footing. You both may end up hurting each other over prejudices and predispositions, and that's degrading, let alone unfair.

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                      • #12
                        Aneri - You bring up a very good point. Will allow me to get inside her head by turning the table.

                        Davdah - Thanks for the links. Some of them are very informative. I have been told Phillipinos are fraud and scammer and these links shed more light to it. I will definitely contact National Mediation. God bless such organizations for doing the right thing.

                        Michael* - Thanks. Yes I am inclined to use my brain but even scholars act foolish when in love.

                        sonofmichael - Do you really own the website? Some very beautiful women. Are you related to michael*?

                        sprint_girl07 - Thanks for your suggestion

                        mrs.b. - What is mir? What does NHF mean? You provide some really good pointers. Can I assume you are a foreigner?

                        roughneighbor - Brother what is your issue? Do you have some mental issues? Why so much hate? When did I ever exhibit hatred towards anyone? Who is spewing hate and blaming the world? Yes, I agree marriage takes place mutually by two consenting adults otherwise it might be called rape or kidnapping. However, if one is playing games just to enter the country, I am no doctor or pyschic to get inside her head and view future actions. Brother the only reason I am looking outside USA is I want to have a family. Is that so bad? American women are very career oriented and they do not want to have a family, which I completely respect. That is the reason I am looking outside. Brother get your screws examined before you go off. Who is coming here to hate and weep. I have only asked a simple question based on what I have researched and cautions I have been provided. Every indication points that Phillipine women are fraud. I came here to understand experience of others. Brother you need to seriously see a doctor or get laid. I can understand your frustration of not getting a piece but don't vent at me.

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                        • #13
                          Did you read the post you just made?

                          This is the climax of stereotyping.

                          "American women are career oriented". ...and then he asks, "are people from the Philippines a fraud"?

                          You need to stop putting a brand on people, my friend.

                          There are American women who want family and there are alien women who just care about a career.

                          Citizenship does not define character. This is a global economy and people are no longer confined to a certain set of values or cultural beliefs. There's everything, everywhere, and that's a fact.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by whatrisks:Michael* - Thanks. Yes I am inclined to use my brain but even scholars act foolish when in love.

                            sonofmichael - Do you really own the website? Some very beautiful women. Are you related to michael*?.
                            Who said anything about using my brain, I said I was using my head.

                            Yes that is my website.

                            I do not use any other aliases on ILW; not related to michaels with dots or stars.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by whatrisks:
                              mrs.b. - What is mir? What does NHF mean? You provide some really good pointers. Can I assume you are a foreigner?
                              Why on earth would you assume that she's a foreigner based on the use of a couple of abbreviations? The fact you did screams troll, but assuming you're not, MIR and NHF are the short versions of a couple of members here on the forums - MakeItRight and NeedHelpFast.
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