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    I have a very good friend that is American and she got married to a man in a middle eastern country. She came home and is waiting for her "husband" to join her her in the US. I guess I'm concerned becasue I don't know anything about this guy and he is of a different religion than she is and it just seems like he has really changed her. I am afraid that he is only using her to get into the country, but I cannot share my concerns with her because she would become very defensive. I'm just curious, but how long does it take for someone's visa to be approved? They just got married last month and she seems to think he will be here very soon. How long does this take?? I'm sorry if I sound judgemental, I am just very concerned for my friend......

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    I have a very good friend that is American and she got married to a man in a middle eastern country. She came home and is waiting for her "husband" to join her her in the US. I guess I'm concerned becasue I don't know anything about this guy and he is of a different religion than she is and it just seems like he has really changed her. I am afraid that he is only using her to get into the country, but I cannot share my concerns with her because she would become very defensive. I'm just curious, but how long does it take for someone's visa to be approved? They just got married last month and she seems to think he will be here very soon. How long does this take?? I'm sorry if I sound judgemental, I am just very concerned for my friend......

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      <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
      I have a very good friend that is American and she got married to a man in a middle eastern country. She came home and is waiting for her "husband" to join her her in the US. I guess I'm concerned becasue I don't know anything about this guy and he is of a different religion than she is and it just seems like he has really changed her. I am afraid that he is only using her to get into the country, but I cannot share my concerns with her because she would become very defensive. I'm just curious, but how long does it take for someone's visa to be approved? They just got married last month and she seems to think he will be here very soon. How long does this take?? I'm sorry if I sound judgemental, I am just very concerned for my friend...... </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

      more Than likely, He is possibly married to several already? and your new friend will be covering her face soon. Let Me Guess? this friend is very influential and submissive type???

      As far as the VISA? Many middle eastern country's have an EXTENDED wait Time.
      USC and Legal, Honest Immigrant Alike Must Fight Against Those That Deceive and Disrupt A Place Of Desirability! All Are Victims of Fraud, Both USC and Honest Immigrant Alike! The bad can and does make it more difficult for the good! Be careful who y

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      • #4
        ALL Muslims are terrorists; why did she betray her country and marry one of those filthy disgusting savages? Where is your concern for this country??? Your friend deserves what she will get; but hundreds or thousands of innocent Americans are going to suffer.

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          <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
          I have a very good friend that is American and she got married to a man in a middle eastern country. She came home and is waiting for her "husband" to join her her in the US. I guess I'm concerned becasue I don't know anything about this guy and he is of a different religion than she is and it just seems like he has really changed her. I am afraid that he is only using her to get into the country, but I cannot share my concerns with her because she would become very defensive. I'm just curious, but how long does it take for someone's visa to be approved? They just got married last month and she seems to think he will be here very soon. How long does this take?? I'm sorry if I sound judgemental, I am just very concerned for my friend...... </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

          Hi JamiesGirl,

          When did she file the paperwork for his visa? I think it will take at least a year to process. Don't be afraid to discuss this with her. Try to take an approach that won't put her on the defense. She'll probably appreciate your honesty and concern.

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          • #6
            Thanks so much Proud.
            I am afraid to turn her away with my questions because she is really into this guy. I thought it took alot longer than a month or two! I think this guy is trying to pull something over on her. Can you give me more specifics about the timeframe? You said a year???

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            • #7
              I'm not exactly sure when she filed the paperwork (or what paperwork she filed either!) but I think it was pretty recently, like a few months ago.

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              • #8
                I'm not exactly sure on the timeframe for the marriage visa, but my brother-in-law did the fiance visa and it took a year. I understand you don't want to cause any hard feelings with her, but maybe you could start off the conversation in a positive manner so she won't feel put off? Maybe talk about how they met, what they have in common - just general stuff first. That might lead to more conversation.

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                • #9
                  Oh my gosh, this is really scary.
                  She already married this guy!! It just doesn't sound right to me and I really care for my friend but she is so defensive over this relationship it's really hard to talk to her about it at all. She has her head in the clouds about him. I think he may have another wife there.

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                  • #10
                    If you know his name, there are ways to find out if he has another wife. Can you get this information from her?

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                    • #11
                      Haha thanks Davdah!! And thanks Proud!
                      I have his name and even his passport number! How can I find out if he's married in his country?? Wouldn't immigration know about the marriage if he is??

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                      • #12
                        Davdah,
                        You seem to know alot about this! Is it really common?? I am just kind of freaking out becasue my friend probably married someone who is already married!! In his country, what kind of records are kept that I may be able to ascertain?? You mentioned that the multiple wives thing is not a problem in his country, but do they keep records of it? By the way, how old are these guys when they first get married? I heard that most Muslim men get married at around age 21....do you know if that is true? This guy is alot older than that.

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                          <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
                          Oh my gosh, this is really scary.
                          She already married this guy!! It just doesn't sound right to me and I really care for my friend but she is so defensive over this relationship it's really hard to talk to her about it at all. She has her head in the clouds about him. I think he may have another wife there. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                          If He Is of Muslim religion? and Older than 27? Probably a 90% chance he Is already married! Unfortunately as the Rules Go, if your friend Is aware of his Muslim religion and Accepts this Within the marriage? it changes the rules!!! No Longer Is your friend Protected By Conventional USA Regulations! That normaly May have protected your friends rights under Christianity and therefore the Laws and Regulation of the states In USA! religion Does play a part in marriage! Is and can be like giving Up your very soul to marry Muslim. your friend was Supposed To Understand beforehand!!! America has not adjusted to The Diversity of religion Within the law! most other country's have initiated Measures/Rules. your friend May have no recourse if things go sour? She accepted In Marriage A Spouse of Muslim religeon That may allow for multiple wives!!!
                          USC and Legal, Honest Immigrant Alike Must Fight Against Those That Deceive and Disrupt A Place Of Desirability! All Are Victims of Fraud, Both USC and Honest Immigrant Alike! The bad can and does make it more difficult for the good! Be careful who y

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                          • #14
                            Hi JamiesGirl,

                            has anybody else other than your friend met the husband?

                            I can understand your concern to some degree, but you go from saying you don't know anything about him (other than religion) to the fact that he may already be married, and you somehow got his passport# ?!

                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
                            I guess I'm concerned becasue I don't know anything about this guy and he is of a different religion than she is </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
                            I am afraid that he is only using her to get into the country.. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
                            I think this guy is trying to pull something over on her. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by JamiesGirl:
                            I think he may have another wife there. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                            Are you being objective? Do you know him? Have you talked to him?

                            What are the signs that make you think about the worst? Not all males from middle eastern countries are fraud. There are lists of "warning signs" on most immigration boards. How does he fit the profile other than being a muslim?

                            I am not trying to say your concern is not legit, but this is a delicate matter and no-one should just jump to the conclusions.

                            My suggestion is that you recommend your friend to visit visajourney.com to get to know the visa process better (for example - how long it takes), and point out to her that they have "Middle East and North Africa" section where she will come across diffrent problems people encounter (including marrige fraud - but you don't need to tell her). Maybe that will open her mind...
                            http://www.visajourney.com/for...dex.php?showforum=97

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                            • #15
                              Give your friend this link. It might save her life. Learn the truth.

                              The Truth About Islam

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