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    I am a single mother of 2 girls, and began dating a Brazillian man, who has been in the US for ten+ years now. Came here w/o visa, bur has been an outstanding citizen, w/ steady job, own business paying taxes, had married and has a 2yr old daughter, but then divorced, and has been productive in this country the entire time. He has been in court w/ exwife for child support issues..he had an areareage, and was trying to get the support modified. At the court hearing he was put in jail for contempt on the arrearage..though he just made a pmt.the previous week. Immigration was at the jail questioning others and put a retainer on him. I went to pay the contempt bond off, and they said he couldnt go. This is a nightmare, he is being held in a terrible prison, and has a clean record. My daughters have been crying since he was taken way from our home. What do we do.....
    "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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    I am a single mother of 2 girls, and began dating a Brazillian man, who has been in the US for ten+ years now. Came here w/o visa, bur has been an outstanding citizen, w/ steady job, own business paying taxes, had married and has a 2yr old daughter, but then divorced, and has been productive in this country the entire time. He has been in court w/ exwife for child support issues..he had an areareage, and was trying to get the support modified. At the court hearing he was put in jail for contempt on the arrearage..though he just made a pmt.the previous week. Immigration was at the jail questioning others and put a retainer on him. I went to pay the contempt bond off, and they said he couldnt go. This is a nightmare, he is being held in a terrible prison, and has a clean record. My daughters have been crying since he was taken way from our home. What do we do.....
    "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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    • #3
      hi heartbroken,

      Has anyone ever filed anything (like I-130 immigrant petition for relative) for your fiance?

      I don't know much about the procedure.. but there is usually an liason officer in a prison who can give you information. I think I heard that deportations are scheduled and carried out according to the number of people from one country they have... Sometimes it goes very fast, but sometimes it can be months before it happens.

      BTW - it helps if you keep all the information (your posts) in one thread.

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      • #4
        <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by aneri:
        hi heartbroken,

        Has anyone ever filed anything (like I-130 immigrant petition for relative) for your fiance?

        I don't know much about the procedure.. but there is usually an liason officer in a prison who can give you information. I think I heard that deportations are scheduled and carried out according to the number of people from one country they have... Sometimes it goes very fast, but sometimes it can be months before it happens.

        BTW - it helps if you keep all the information (your posts) in one thread. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>WHAT do u mean, in one thread..dont keep opening new posts? i dont understand
        "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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        • #5
          What should you do???? YOU SHOULD RUN !!!

          <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by heartbroken: Came here w/o visa, bur has been an outstanding citizen, He has been in court w/ exwife for child support issues..he had an areareage, and . </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

          Outstanding Citizen???? First off, he is NOT a Citizen. Second, He violated our immigration laws. Third, he does not support his own children and is violating child support orders.

          How can you let this 'person' be around your children? I do not mean to sound harsh but do you have ANY self-respect; any at all? You can't do better than an illegal alien criminal who abandons his responsibility to his own children?

          My question is why aren't you running from this loser instead of trying to help him?

          Women just love ****S and this is just one more proof.

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          • #6
            hi s.o.m.
            i know ow it looks, he was paying his child support..the divorce was brought by his exwife because she wanted to be single. The arrearage was from not being able to pay the full 300$ per week. Anyways, I love him, my daughters love him, and we had a strong family. My exhusband, a US citizen(caucasian) was abusive,psychotic, and abused drugs. We freed ourselves from him after 10 years.I know that my fiancees immigrant status was illegal, but USA is the leading nation, best place on earth to live..right? We were going to correct his status...actually after the holidays.
            Its too late now, I'll never run away from him, only to him..and having him in our life is the best thing that has ever happened to us.Call me foolish, but I'm filling out our passport apps as we speak...thank u for your insight though.
            "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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            • #7
              Hello HB and welcome to the forum


              Without question , you need the advice of an immigration attorney. You will need to give him the facts of the circumstances in order for him to give you the proper guidance. (the same goes for the forum}


              You said that he got divorced and owed child support. Was he married to a us citizen and do you know if any paperwork for immigration was ever filed on his behalf?

              Did he sneak into the country?
              Perhaps he was part of 245I back in 2001 with the ex wife. His no visa would not have mattered then. We need facts.


              I understand that you are upset and distraught, but right now we need facts in order to advise you.

              One more thing, you speak about getting married to him and trying to get him status. Are you usc? If not, then that is not an option .

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              • #8
                hi..thank u. No, he was not married to a citizen, rather a girl here on a student visa, and they had a child together. she is actually fraudulently using a fake social, which is something he wouldnt even do. I am a USC, and i do believe he came here w/o a passport.He has been here for over 10 yrs though.
                "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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                • #9
                  <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by heartbroken:
                  hi..thank u. No, he was not married to a citizen, rather a girl here on a student visa, and they had a child together. she is actually fraudulently using a fake social, which is something he wouldnt even do. I am a USC, and i do believe he came here w/o a passport.He has been here for over 10 yrs though. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>



                  You need to find out for sure. Ask him. It is possible he came on a visa such as student or tourist. One thing for sure is that their child is a united states citizen and that will be the hardship that he will use. along with the ten years in this country to ask for cancelation of removal.

                  He does not have a criminal record which is good. However, being behind in child support is frowned on in the courts. How much child support does he owe in arrears

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                  • #10
                    we are paying the entire arrearage off in court on monday and the civil case will be gone..he did not come here w/ any visa at all...and yes his girl is a us citizen, but the mom has sole custody, only because at the time of divorce, he didnt understand what she asked for, and agreed to it. Hes never received representation for any court appearances but should have.
                    "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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                    • #11
                      Ok that is a good thing.

                      Right now the most important thing is to see a lawyer about cancellation of removal or another option for him.

                      His daughter is the key. Does he see her on a regular basis. or not very much.

                      I also doubt that mother has sole custody of the child. Joint custody is usually in order, and physical custody is with the one parent.

                      Again, the divorce papers would have to be reviewed to determine if sole custody was actually awarded.


                      things may not be as bad as you think they are. Just see an experienced immigration attorney.

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                      • #12
                        actually there are court ordered one visit per week visitation orders, which wife was denying him half the time...thank u for the light....a little is better than nothing.
                        "who are you to judge the way I live-i'm not perfect,or live to be but before you start pointing fingers,make sure your hands are clean".....B.M. http://i36.tinypic.com/350ma8n.jpg

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                        • #13
                          <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by 4now:
                          Ok that is a good thing.

                          Right now the most important thing is to see a lawyer about cancellation of removal or another option for him.

                          His daughter is the key. Does he see her on a regular basis. or not very much.

                          I also doubt that mother has sole custody of the child. Joint custody is usually in order, and physical custody is with the one parent.

                          Again, the divorce papers would have to be reviewed to determine if sole custody was actually awarded.


                          things may not be as bad as you think they are. Just see an experienced immigration attorney. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                          [I also doubt that mother has sole custody of the child. Joint custody is usually in order, and physical custody is with the one parent.]

                          NOPE. In many areas the courts Make it extremely difficult For the man To Get Custody. Even If The Mother Has A DUI, and Only been in this country for 5 years. the father Has To Fight 10 Times as Hard Just To Get Shared Custody. and Alot of $$$$$ to Do So. Example: I Got Shared legal and Physical Only After $8000.00 Dollars! After what I Have Seen, The Courts and DCSE Cause More Damage To the Children Than They help! Many Fathers Eventualy Give Up, With So Many Within The Sytem Against The Fathers. DCSE Is The Most Damaging and Destructive Part Of The System! The Right Hand Never Knowing What The Left hand Is Doing, Money lost, Many Complain Without Resolution On Both Sides. The Giver and Receiver Alike!

                          Of Course Even Though it is not in the best interest of the child. the Immigrant spouse fights for sole custody, Nothing provides More Protection for the Immigrant than having Sole Custody Of a USC Child!!!

                          The Man In this Case Might Very Well Have Been The Better Parent? Yet He Had very Little Chance Of Getting That!!!!
                          USC and Legal, Honest Immigrant Alike Must Fight Against Those That Deceive and Disrupt A Place Of Desirability! All Are Victims of Fraud, Both USC and Honest Immigrant Alike! The bad can and does make it more difficult for the good! Be careful who y

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                          • #14
                            Mir

                            with all due respect, In a divorce case , it is generally standard that joint custody is awarded. meaning both parents retain custody) you do understand that joint custody is different from physical custody?

                            Physical custody is what parents are usually fighting about as it affects who will be paying child support and school issues.

                            These issues are handled differently depending on the state divorce laws. However , getting sole custody is not an easy endeavor in any divorce. Joint is the general award unless extenuating circumstances are involved, or one of the parent has agreed to do it.

                            If you have factual information otherwise, please I would like to see it, and from what states that seem to be otherwise contradicting what I have said.

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                            • #15
                              <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by 4now:
                              Mir

                              with all due respect, In a divorce case , it is generally standard that joint custody is awarded. meaning both parents retain custody) you do understand that joint custody is different from physical custody?

                              Physical custody is what parents are usually fighting about as it affects who will be paying child support and school issues.

                              These issues are handled differently depending on the state divorce laws. However , getting sole custody is not an easy endeavor in any divorce. Joint is the general award unless extenuating circumstances are involved, or one of the parent has agreed to do it.

                              If you have factual information otherwise, please I would like to see it, and from what states that seem to be otherwise contradicting what I have said. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

                              The State of Residence and The Laws Within Each One Vary Greatly! Unfortunately What I Mentioned Is True In My State!

                              And Here It Is not Called Joint Custody. It Is Referred To as Legal Custody, And Physical Custody. And Even When Joint Legal and Physical Are Given, There Is Always A Custodial Parent That Receives Child Support. This Is Based On Income Potential For Each Parent. Being Male Usually and more Often than Not Because Supposedly Men Have The Ability To Make More Income $$$. . The Result Is The Man Though Supposedly Equal In This Ruling Almost Never Becomes Custodial!!!

                              Drug Addict Mothers, Illegal Immigrant mothers, mothers With Misdemeanors, "Even Though The Father None". The mother Almost Always Becomes custodial!!! Unless You Can Get The mother On Something Federal. Not Including Immigration Related. That part Of The System Does Not Work Here!!!

                              Only Recourse For MAN Is To Become Part Of Various Organizations That Fight To Change This Very Flaw Within Our System That Actually Destroys Our Childrens Futures!!!
                              #1 = our Children!!!!
                              USC and Legal, Honest Immigrant Alike Must Fight Against Those That Deceive and Disrupt A Place Of Desirability! All Are Victims of Fraud, Both USC and Honest Immigrant Alike! The bad can and does make it more difficult for the good! Be careful who y

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