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      yoyo1129 Aloha!

      I just wanted to say I am sorry that you are going through what must be a hard time.

      Going to a counselor doesn't help you get an affidavit but I guess you are showing this marriage is not a sham or anything.

      Counseling however if you can both go together might be a good thing if there might be a possibility of saving your marriage.
      Going alone could be good for you, helps with talking things through with someone and can relieve some of that stress and emotions.
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        Hi honey, tell me did you gain weight??
        That's usually the #1 reason .Good luck to you.
        Remember LOOKS COUNT!!

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          Jesus Christ
          These people stop at Nothing !

          Death to IMBRA AND VAWA !

          God Bless America and no one else !!!

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            Hey yoyo1129,

            Sorry to hear about your situation. May I ask you what is more troubling, the loss of your husbands love, or the loss of your immigration status?

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              <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by unique:
              Hey yoyo1129,
              Sorry to hear about your situation. May I ask you what is more troubling, the loss of your husbands love, or the loss of your immigration status? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

              These people stop at Nothing !

              Death to IMBRA AND VAWA !

              God Bless America and no one else !!!

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                dont worry about your husband leaving you.I know you think that is the end of the world but it is not,and if he doesnt love you ,then it is good thing to get out of htat relationship.We are here to support you ,maybe we even find you a boyfriend .Iam sure there are lot of singles here.Good luck

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                  <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Farrah's Thoughts:
                  Hi honey, tell me did you gain weight??
                  That's usually the #1 reason .Good luck to you.
                  Remember LOOKS COUNT!! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>is that what happen to you?Most women gain weigth after they get married,I have a lot of tips that can help so that wont happen.it is just sad to see a marriage to end but I guess it was not meant to be,well good luck everybody on losing weight,if it is difficult maybe I can help.

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                    <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by yoyo1129:
                    He and I dated for about 3years. we got married on aug 2007 and about 10days ago, he suddenly announce a divorce out of blue. I have got a conditional residency card on december. anyways, the truth is I really don't want to divorce him if i can. I still don't quite understand what he said as a reason for his decision "don't love you as a husband should", and if he was so unhappy, why did he not talk or do something about with me. He also told me that now he loves his old friend and wants to be with her but she is not the main reason for our divorce...
                    I live in Hawaii and it is a "no-fault" state so no matter how bad i don't this divorce, it will happend no matter what. He is willing to help if I decided to file for a waiver for I175.
                    is going to marriage counselor or some counselor will help me on getting an affidaivd? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
                    Yoyo,
                    My sympathies to you. If it is not too late,consider counseling for the both of you. It could save the marriage and it could help you why he wanted the divorce in the first place. The counselor may help you with the waiver, but it won't guarantee you anything, unfortunately.

                    As for the I-751, as long as you can prove you entered into a good faith marriage and that divorce was not of your doing, then there should be no problem getting your green card. My only concern is your short time being married when he asked for divorce. Despite what he said to you, I believe, and this is my opinion, that the main reason is because of the other woman. I would suggest you take the offer cautiously for he can change his mind on a whim and leave you stranded. If you have any questions, just ask.
                    "Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre

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                        <BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by yoyo1129:
                        well I didn't gain weight.
                        The main problem of our marriage is that he doesn't want to talk. he really can't give me a clear answer. he even said that he doesn't know what he wants but he would like to be single then being married.
                        He said he tried to save our marriage and he realized that he can't do no longer because it oesn't make him haapy. He said we don't have any connection and he doesn't see a future with me which made me angry because like last month, we planned on inviting both our parents to here and buying a house etc..I don't know what made him change so drastically within a month.
                        come to think of it, we don't have much in common like habbies but I am willing to do things that he likes if he just let me participate in his actives but he just want to quit and I am even afraid to ask..
                        and every time to bring up the divorce talking, he just gets upset and tries to leave the house or the situation.
                        and that girl, he told me that he had feelings for 5years ago and now that feelings are coming back..he said he likes how she communicates and they have connection. I even saw his text message to her saying that he loves her and he will wait till she changes her mind. (when I saw that I so wanted to report that to his boss- he is in the military)
                        at this point, I want to get him back what I am going through and mess up his life. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
                        Yoyo, I can only offer words of encouragement since I have never been in your situation.

                        For your own benefit, try going to counseling either through work or through a professional. If you need help finding one, just let me know.

                        He is having a very belated cold feet in this marriage. It is hard to guess why he is doing this, other than a worse case scenario. You might want to try reverse psychology and ask him directly if he loves the other woman or if he has slept with her? Or another possibility is contacting her since you are his wife and that you do not need a home wrecker in this marriage. Perhaps she can tell you what the problem is.

                        But as for the I-751, you need to show you entered into the marriage under good faith and that the marriage is not your doing. By him filing for divorce, this will prove the second point. What is the harder part is proving marriage entered into good faith. Contact your and his friends, family, and anyone else who knows about your marriage and ask them for affidavits. If you have joint bank accounts, keep the records or get a letter from the bank. Get copy of any leases or tax recrods having you filed jointly in the past. And any other record that can show the two of you lived together, shared expenses together, etc.

                        I hope this helps you. Good luck, keep up your faith, and look strong.
                        "Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre

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