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    Dearest Friends of ILW,

    Im very shook up and sad and need a little advice here. I saw on Fox news today, that the BCIS is ordering that all muslims and arabs over the age of 16 are required to re register again with the BCIS as of this month and if they do not, they can face deportation. Now hear my story:
    Ive been seeing an Lebanese Guy for the past year as a boyfriend and we decided to get married, however i was married in the past but separated and i, not knowing how serious the consequences could be didnt divorce my x until recently, and by the law of my state, there is a 6 month wait until finalization.( Kind of like those silly stories u see on daytime soaps only i was a bit young at the time) There are 3 months left until i can marry the man that i DO truly love. The problem is this:
    His student visa expired in August however he is attending college still and will not finish his masters until about april or may, we decided to marry before that time after my divorce is finalized.
    We are worried that if he goes to re register they will see that his visa is expired and he will face deportation
    Or
    If he lets it slide, just so we can marry within the next few months he can also be deported for that (and basically he told me that if hes gone then its over between us because we all know how long distance relations turn out :-(
    Any help or suggestions would be a god send and i appreciate anyones help here! Im on edge!
    Thanks and Blessings

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    Dearest Friends of ILW,

    Im very shook up and sad and need a little advice here. I saw on Fox news today, that the BCIS is ordering that all muslims and arabs over the age of 16 are required to re register again with the BCIS as of this month and if they do not, they can face deportation. Now hear my story:
    Ive been seeing an Lebanese Guy for the past year as a boyfriend and we decided to get married, however i was married in the past but separated and i, not knowing how serious the consequences could be didnt divorce my x until recently, and by the law of my state, there is a 6 month wait until finalization.( Kind of like those silly stories u see on daytime soaps only i was a bit young at the time) There are 3 months left until i can marry the man that i DO truly love. The problem is this:
    His student visa expired in August however he is attending college still and will not finish his masters until about april or may, we decided to marry before that time after my divorce is finalized.
    We are worried that if he goes to re register they will see that his visa is expired and he will face deportation
    Or
    If he lets it slide, just so we can marry within the next few months he can also be deported for that (and basically he told me that if hes gone then its over between us because we all know how long distance relations turn out :-(
    Any help or suggestions would be a god send and i appreciate anyones help here! Im on edge!
    Thanks and Blessings

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    • #3
      As far as I know, F-1 visas are "duration of stay" visas, meaning that as long as your boyfriend is attending the school indicated on his I-20 he should be ok. He may want to go to the international students office of his school to see if the school needs to file an amended I-20.

      On a personal advice level, his comment about long-distance relationships raises, in my opinion, a red flag. There are people who are married to foreigners and, because of one reason or another, they cannot be in the U.S. at the same time until the immigration paperwork is approved. Yet, their relationships continue. I have met couples where one lived in the U.S. and the other in Western Europe. Frankly, it sounds like emotional blackmail. Again, have him check with his school's foreign students office.

      However, I must say that I have not yet heard about another round of registrations. I admit that I do not trust Fox News. In addition, registrations are not usually based on religion, but on country of origin. So, singling out muslims does not sound like the previous special registrations, unless this administration is really going off the deep end (as I suspect they are anyway).

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      • #4
        Thanks for the kind reply. I dont want to give off a bad impression, in fact we talked a lot about it before i wrote the post and decided that if he had to leave me then it would be pretty much over because it would probably be incredibly hard for him to come back, and i have to finish my college here and have so many plans here so if i left for his country it would be very hard for us to establish anything especially for myself. My life is in his best interest and he knows if i leave, i will not be able to establish a thing for myself. And i know it wouldnt be easy to get him back here it would be a long complicated process and i just cant deal with that kind of pain. I guess i kind of freaked out after seeing that news segment because i do not know much about immigration. Once again, thanks. Ill do more research about it and talk to the school advisors.

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        • #5
          I would hope BCIS kicks this guy out of the country. How can we let these people in our country ? America is a Christian nation and these "people" do not share any of our values and beliefs. They are a hateful species who do not know anything of honor, peace, freedom, capitalism and love. They do not belong in civilization.

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          • #6
            "basically he told me that if hes gone then its over between us"

            Ahhh true love ! No green card then its over ! Hey sweetcakes; offer to move with him to his savage country and see how willing he is to marry you. Wake up and pull the Hajib off your eyes !! He is practically admitting to you that all he wants is a green card.

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            • #7
              "I do not trust Fox News"

              Yea right, who do you trust ? CNN ? BBC ? According to them, the Iraqi army defeated the third herd as it was steam rolling into downtown Baghdad while Fox was giving us the right stuff. While all the other networks lied about ALGORE winning the election, ONLY Fox gave us the truth. Fox is by far more accurate than any loeft wing media outlet in every case every timw. Fox - Fair and balanced journalism.

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              • #8
                Michael, I hope that you say some of the things that you do because you want to stir people up and not because it's actually how you feel.

                Sad, what does it say on his I-94? They usually put date it is good until or they put d/s. If it says d/s then as long as he meets requirements of "duration of stay" as outlined in the law it sounds like he'd be ok. I think that includes still attending the school listed on I-20, etc. I assume they're still doing it the same way as in the past, this is what I was told a few months ago. Here's a link regarding d/s.

                http://travel.state.gov/xtension.html

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                • #9
                  Hey sweeetie, has he got you wearing the veil? IF SO, YOU'RE DONE FOR ALREADY!! Beware of that culture!!

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                  • #10
                    Hello. If you can find the website with this info on it about the BCis. I would like to read about it
                    Thanks

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                    • #11
                      always ask yourself this:

                      if i was a f1, or a gc holder. Would he still marry me?

                      -= nav =-

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                      • #12
                        to sadgirl23

                        its perfectly legal to stay in the states with expired student visa as long as he/she maintain full-time student status continuously, have valid passport and the date on I94 has not passed. visa allows you to ENTER the country but I20(issued by the school)allows you to STAY in the country. i was once in that position, and never had a problem. just keep I20's(both old and new) in a safe place!!! good luck.

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                        • #13
                          SadGirl23:

                          I am alarmed that you could not see that your sweetie's statement "if i'm gone then it is over between us" as a perfect sign of a LACK OF COMMITMENT!!

                          What more do you need in order to see the real intent of your man? In my eyes, it is his way or the highway. You need to really examine his own words, my dear!

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                          • #14
                            Lack of Committment? Gee whiz i live with the man and hes committed to me to the fullest extent of every hour and minute. Perhaps i worded it Wrong but in any case it is going to be over between us if something goes wrong because we both have dreams and goals we want to accomplish together and if the law decides to take it away from us, then its OVER. I am 100% with him on that. Like im really going to pack up and go to a country where i cant get a job or study, its bad enough living in the US with the economy down in a village town where you have to have a degree to get a job in fast food. It would be bad enough for him as well so how would we make it as a family. I have to look at it as facts, not as some joker wants a green card from me. I am already married with a divorce pending as i noted above. He could have left me knowing i was already married by law to another man. And no i dont believe its his way or the highway. Its going to be OUR way or im hitting the highway for Good. I didnt ask for any relationship advice by the way. I only asked for information on the status of expired student visas. This isnt Dr. Phil Folks

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                            • #15
                              First off, I'm not saying that you heard wrong about re-registration requirement, but I haven't heard anything like this yet. Second, registration is required based upon coutry of origin, and not by religion, since you said all arabs or muslims are required to reregister. Thirdly, your boyfriend won't be vulnerable for removal proceeding if he would go to registeration process ONLY, if he is out of status, instead he could still be removal if his d/s has been expired on his I-94. Under the new law, each school-institutions are required to inform BCIS immediately thru electronically if a student won't have valid stay here, or if any foreign student fails to attend the class to that school. So, your boyfriend could be picked up anytime anyhow.

                              I know it would be hard for you to achieve lots of things in the life if you go back to his country to live with him. And I also know that it would be very hard for him to come back here also, however, then it goes with most of people who marry with another nationals. You can not expect to have all the cards in your favor if he has failed to keep his status current. You would need to compromise somewhere. If you get divorced, then get married as soon as possible.

                              I know that you did not ask for relationship adivise, but I am forced to tell you that-it's seemed that you are not making a good judgemental decision in relationship with him. I know that it's your life and your decision whomever you want to have relationship. I also know that I should not judge him especially when I don't know anything about him. But, my judgement is based upon his statement that the relationship between both of you would be over if he would leave to his country because he said long distance relationships don't stay long. If he really loves you, then whether you guys live in America or not, should not be the matter. What would happen if he would get good job in another state here after marrying with you and you would still be staying in your state for studies purpose? Would he break up with you because of his ideology that long distance relationships don't last long?

                              If he REALLY loves you, then he won't even make such statement. It's seemed that he is forcing you INDIRECTLY to get what he wants for his sake. Millions of people are living apart from their spouses and love-ones, but they don't say that they need to break up because of long distance relationships. I've personally known 4-5 people who are living apart from their love-ones for 15-20 yrs and can not help their loves-one because of existing immigration laws, but they never said that they are going to break up with them because of long distance relationships. I meant- I am talking here- TRUE LOVE. Well, I don't want to give you a relationship advise, because your question was related to only immigration question, but I just wish you reevaluate your relationship beforehand. I know Love is blind, but repentation would be left later on. I've nothing to gain from you, but I am giving my opion to you based upon my experiences since 'been there done that'. I sincerly wish you GOOD LUCK.

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