Dear GCD, Well, I think you have a couple of problems here. First, you need to divorce your husband if both, or neither, of you do not want to consider reconciliation. Second, you case will be denied b/c you did not go to the interview. Depending on how quick you can get a divorce will also depend on if you can file an appeal. If you cannot file an appeal, you will then need to file the I-751 ASAP.
thank you for ur kind advice but what do u mean by "file the I-751 ASAP", u mean once it denied, I can file a new one again?
Once the divorce is final, you will need to refile the I-751 ASAP if your case is denied. However, an immigration attorney is going to be required in this case b/c of your predictament.
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
Many of us maybe are doctors, dentists, lawyers back in our country but becuz we happen to fall in love with a USC, we have to sacrifice and leave everything behind to be with the one we love.
So now, the truth starts coming out! And what, if I may ask, was your profession back, where are you from?
My immigrant ex-wife is a Dr. back in her country, but while we dated for a year, she never told me anything about wanting to become a Dr. here in the US. In fact, she spoke all kinds of **** about US doctors while we dated. When we got married, she wanted me, at all costs, to help her become a Dr. in the US. I was shocked! And of course, right away I became suspicious of her and the reasons behind marrying me. 4 mos. later we separated, and after divorcing, guess what? She found herself a medical student (USC by the way) and started dating him! Her actions CONFIRMED my suspicions! Oh yeah, they're about to get married too.
But never, did she marry me BECAUSE her Dr.'s title was first before anything else. See where I'm going with this?
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How many USCs willing to to leave the U.S, to sacrifice evertying u have here to live oversea with your non USC spouse? Not many!
I was. My ex-wife (wife at the time) didn't want me to. It was to her advantage me staying over here, while she was over there.
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If we entered the marriage in good faith but for whatever reason it doesn't work, we have all the rights to remain here in the U.S.
What makes you think so? A marriage that doesn't work out? Only that? My marriage didn't work out, so goodbye! I don't get any extra rights for anything!
See, you will never understand where people like your husband and me come from. It's women like you and my ex who give the real good ones ANYWHERE in the world such a bad name. You know why?
My immigrant ex-wife is a Dr. back in her country, but while we dated for a year, she never told me anything about wanting to become a Dr. here in the US
u should've asked her when u dated her. u probably knew that she was a Dr. while u dated her. Doesn't it make sense if one is a Dr in their country, it's natural that they would still want to continue working as a Dr when they move to another country? An M.D degree is not an easy thing one can give up, especially it takes a long *** time and and a whole lot of hard work and effort to finish it.
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When we got married, she wanted me, at all costs, to help her become a Dr. in the US. I was shocked! And of course, right away I became suspicious of her and the reasons behind marrying me. 4 mos. later we separated, and after divorcing, guess what? She found herself a medical student (USC by the way) and started dating him! Her actions CONFIRMED my suspicions! Oh yeah, they're about to get married too
You are making no sense, you make it sound like "marrying a doctor will help one become a doctor in the U.S". No marriage, no one, nothing can help her become a doctor here in the U.S but herself. "when we got married, she wanted me, at all costs, to help her become a Dr." May I ask how exactly did she ask u to help her become a Dr. in the U.S? Take the equivilant USMLE for her? Bribe someone for her? The only thing I can think of is that she might ask u to work to support her so that she can stay home and have time to study for the USMLE test. And that's what a husband should do for his wife if he loves her anyway. He would want to support her to do what she really wants to do. If it's her dream to becomg a Dr again, what's the problem of u supporting her dream? Why were u "shocked"? Or because u "granted her the favor", u expected her to be a stay at home wife and be ur servant? or she should be doig whatever u want her to do? And oh yea, how exactly do u think dating or marrying a med student now will help her become a Dr. here in the U.S? At the end, she still has to study her *** off to take the equivalant USMLE test. You are just too bitter and that's probabaly why u marriage didn't work out. First u didn't take time to get to know her well enough, to talk things out w/ her, to discuss future plans w/ her, didn't ask her what she wants to do once she gets to the U.S etc... before u decide to marry her. Second, while being married w/ her, u were always suspicious and never trusted her. U only gor urself to blame.
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I was. My ex-wife (wife at the time) didn't want me to. It was to her advantage me staying over here, while she was over there
well u only speak of ur situation and ur situation doesn't represent all other couples
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See, you will never understand where people like your husband and me come from.
and you will never understand where ppl like us come from. U got too bitter to realize it always takes two for a marriage not to wokr out. U got too bitter to realize maybe u were part at fault too. Don't blame everything on ur wife when ur marriage doesnt work out. That just simply makes u a pathetic man. Come on, be a man and let it go, move on, be happy, find another one that is more of a match for u.
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Just great! Me helping her take her tests is what any loving husband should do, but on the other hand, that would've made her "a slave and a stay home servant."
You're definitely a Dr. Which country?
Yeah, she revalidates her title here, then it's: bye hon! Thanks for helping me!
And of course I take half of the responsibility for the marriage not working out! After all, that's what every ex-husband should do!
And yes, marrying a med. school student is to her advantage!
Oh yeah, forgot to add. I met her here, didn't bring her over AND we dated for a year before getting married. I never refused to help her. In fact, it was I who bought her Steps 1, 2 and 3 study guides! Unfortunately for her, a week after buying her the guides, me, along with 20 other people in my dept. got laid off. When I told her: hold off for a while and work, while I get a new job. My savings combined with your earnings, will hold us off until I find a new job, then you can quit and study.
Her response: me, work? Are you crazy? You work while I study, 'cause I ain't working at all!
Just what every loving wife should say.
And I do understand you. Do you have any idea where I'm originally from?
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Originally posted by dmartmar: Just great! Me helping her take her tests is what any loving husband should do, but on the other hand, that would've made her A SLAVE AND A STAY HOME SERVANT?
You're definitely a Dr. Which country?
Yeah, she revalidates her title here, then it's: bye hon! Thanks for helping me!
And of course I take half of the responsibility for the marriage not working out! After all, that's what every ex-husband should do!
And yes, marrying a med. school student is to her advantage!
Oh yeah, forgot to add. I met her here, didn't bring her over AND we dated for a year before getting married. I never refused to help her. In fact, it was I who bought her Steps 1, 2 and 3 study guides!
I still fail to see how she used the marriage w/ u to get her M.D degree here in the U.S? When u met her, she was already here so marrying u to get to the U.S wasn't her motive. If she was already here in the U.S, she didn't need to marry anybody to help her to get the M.D degree and even if she wanted to, marrying somone ain't help her get an M.D. It's all her work and effort if she wants to get the M.D degree. She gotta take the time and effort to study to pass the test, and when she passes the test, she still needs to try really hard to find a spot in a residency program. What a husband/bf could do for her is just to be there, to support her emotionally and maybe financially here and there. She still needs to do all the work so dont give urself too much credits here in her process of getting an M.D degree again. Now I see why ur marriage didn't work out. Maybe it was a coincidence that she left u right after she got her M.D but that doesn't mean she uses the marriage to help her obtaining it becuz a marriage in this case couldn't help her watsoever. She needs to do all the work!!!
My argument is not how she used the marriage for her MD, but how she used it to get a GC. Very similar to yours, by the way.
She never got her MD here in the US. The plan was for me to support her, while she studied. In the meantime she would've gotten her GC, then she would've had BOTH things in her hands and gone back home. Not only after we separated, did she start telling me truth: how she hated it here, how she never wanted to live here, how she only wanted to be able to come here for med. conferences and nothing else, etc.
After separation, she asked me: is there any way you could still go to the interview with me, so I can get a GC? I'll even pay you for it!
Unfortunately, she had to return home with both hands empty: one w/o a GC, the other w/o a medical title. See, I don't do fraud.
After all was said and done, she had no one else to blame, but herself: she falsely accused me of domestic violence, we went to court and she lost the case. I'm assuming you already know what this meant for her.
End of story.
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i have an situation my husband went to jail for 60 days on suspended driving license on 7/27/06 and was suppose to get out on 9/23/06. we got married on 7/6/06 but we were together for 3 years prior of getting married and we do have an child together who was born on 9/29/06. now ins moved him to new mexico for an trial for deportation i didnt understand because he was in massachusetts. and i can't send him pictures but just letters and he wasnt been able to call but had someone else call. to tell about his trail and where he was i sent him copy of the marriage certificate and birth certicate of our son and iam sending a form to try to stop this because i didnt marry him just for his american papers and been trying to get him a lawyer but i have no $$ for one i had a free lawyer for him in boston mass but ins decided to move him to new mexico they couldn't help him because of that i've been trying to contact some there but still got no answers now i am afraid of losing someone i really love and care about and my son to lose a father he will never get to meet.
An update on my case. I been consuluting with different lawyers and all of them suggested me to go ahead and file for a divorce now, and then get married with my bf and start the I-130/I485 process and it should only takes 5 months till I can start having the green card or work authorization again. So for now, I m sticking to that plan. Keep my fingers crossed that everything will work out well this time
He said he wouldn't cause trouble, like calling the USCIS to withdraw the joint petition or write an angry-spouse letter either.
...mark my words woman: when all of this is over, you've given yourself enough time to grieve, really move on and finally your head is cleared, you will look back, think about the above, then realize just how good of a man your husband was and how happy he would've made you, only if you had stayed by his side.
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Originally posted by dmartmar: One more time, read this over and over again:
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He said he wouldn't cause trouble, like calling the USCIS to withdraw the joint petition or write an angry-spouse letter either.
...mark my words woman: when all of this is over, you've given yourself enough time to grieve, really move on and finally your head is cleared, you will look back, think about the above, then realize just how good of a man your husband was and how happy he would've made you, only if you had stayed by his side.
the problem is my current boyfriend is a 100 times better than my soon to be ex husband
Everyone make it sound so scary and that's not always the case. My friend missed her appointment also and didn't hear from Immigration but then she wrote then and they rescheduled it for her. She went with her husband but in your case though just go and tell them the truth, or you can even seek advise from a good Immigration attorney. Chances are they won't remove you from the US. Those people are not $$holes or mean, scary or whatever like people would like you to believe.
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