Dcwtech if what you said about the house is true all you need to do is stop paying for it. After that sue for damages. The amount you gave them for payments you can get back. You should be able to get it back as long as you can show proof. Do you have canceled checks? If your name is not on the loan documents or anything else then you have a right to that money back.
I think there are details being left out. Probably things that are embarrassing. Or, he was in on it and got ousted after their need of him vanished. The flop house as you described could be emptied out with one call to immigration. Why not make the call? They are all illegals, aren't they? Didn't you know it is a felony to harbor an illegal? If you continue to pay the mortgage you are an acomplice. You are looking at more jail time if you don't put a stop to it.
No luv After they forced Me out. I stopped paying the motgage. they Had No choice To pay It. Immigration??? Sis. I Am Too Compasionate, I Have Too Much Knowledge Of The Outcome. My Son Is Soooo Very important To me. I Cannot imagine My Only Son With No Mom. No Matter How Bad She May be. She Does Love Him Also, But Her Thinking And Common Sense Is somewhat flawed. Everything About Them And their Actions Are Bad 99%. But 1% remains A Mother Loves The Child. The Child Loves The mother. regardless Of everything Else And The poor Judgment And lifestyle Of mom And Hers. Ive Never Experienced Being Torn/Ripped Apart By What Is Right And What Is Human Before! I Made My Contacts To All Authorities Only When They Destroyed Me To a Point I Had To Fight Back For My Very Life! Withdrawing My Sponsorship etc. Problem! I Really Think They feel they Are Right. Not Understanding USA And Our Rules Here! But I Am Important To My Sons Future!!!! The Ones i deal With Live As They Do, I Can Only Guess Because Of severe Circumstances Their Own Country. "Take What You Can" Some Statements They Made To Me. : When There Is A Typhoon In The Philippines It Is Called Free Day! A Day When Neihbors Lose Their Homes, Possesions, Etc. And Everyone Else Runs Into The streets And Gets free stuff At The Neihbors loss! I Started To look For Answers. I Found That Those 7000 plus Islands Of The Philippines Kinda Live A Jungle Rule! Desperate People Fighting For something Better, No Matter What! And No Matter Who Is Victim Of Circumstance! ME? Wrong Place, Wrong Time. Me: There Are No Bad People, really! Only People That Have Adapted To Survive In Their surroundings! Whatever It Takes! My Situation Has Made Me Cookoo! I Care TOO MUCH!!! The Plans I Had For My Only Child Here In USA. Destroyed By Those Trying To Survive! Not Understanding What And How Things Are here In USA. My Dilema. How To Save A Future Of Two Different Kinds Of Family When The Family Not From Here Lives a destructive Lifestyle Here In USA. Doesnt Follow Any Rules Or Laws Here! But Loves My Son. TORN!
Ummm..you think the Philippines have been the only place (if true) that have run into other houses/stores to get what they can??
Have you forgotten something very similar happened right here in the USA? Does Katrina ring a bell?
My friend had to protect her house, the neighborhood was being ransacked and people were using guns to save their lives and personal belongings. It can happen anywhere.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- God Bless America - God Bless Immigrants - God Bless Poor Misguided Souls Too Mr S.U.
Originally posted by dcwtech: Thank You so much sis.
No luv After they forced Me out. I stopped paying the motgage. they Had No choice To pay It. Immigration??? Sis. I Am Too Compasionate, I Have Too Much Knowledge Of The Outcome. My Son Is Soooo Very important To me. I Cannot imagine My Only Son With No Mom. No Matter How Bad She May be. She Does Love Him Also, But Her Thinking And Common Sense Is somewhat flawed. Everything About Them And their Actions Are Bad 99%. But 1% remains A Mother Loves The Child. The Child Loves The mother. regardless Of everything Else And The poor Judgment And lifestyle Of mom And Hers. Ive Never Experienced Being Torn/Ripped Apart By What Is Right And What Is Human Before! I Made My Contacts To All Authorities Only When They Destroyed Me To a Point I Had To Fight Back For My Very Life! Withdrawing My Sponsorship etc. Problem! I Really Think They feel they Are Right. Not Understanding USA And Our Rules Here! But I Am Important To My Sons Future!!!! The Ones i deal With Live As They Do, I Can Only Guess Because Of severe Circumstances Their Own Country. "Take What You Can" Some Statements They Made To Me. : When There Is A Typhoon In The Philippines It Is Called Free Day! A Day When Neihbors Lose Their Homes, Possesions, Etc. And Everyone Else Runs Into The streets And Gets free stuff At The Neihbors loss! I Started To look For Answers. I Found That Those 7000 plus Islands Of The Philippines Kinda Live A Jungle Rule! Desperate People Fighting For something Better, No Matter What! And No Matter Who Is Victim Of Circumstance! ME? Wrong Place, Wrong Time. Me: There Are No Bad People, really! Only People That Have Adapted To Survive In Their surroundings! Whatever It Takes! My Situation Has Made Me Cookoo! I Care TOO MUCH!!! The Plans I Had For My Only Child Here In USA. Destroyed By Those Trying To Survive! Not Understanding What And How Things Are here In USA. My Dilema. How To Save A Future Of Two Different Kinds Of Family When The Family Not From Here Lives a destructive Lifestyle Here In USA. Doesnt Follow Any Rules Or Laws Here! But Loves My Son. TORN!
Hi Dcwtech,
Please don't take this the wrong way, but I believe you need to talk to a professional counselor. You have many issues here that are unresolved and I believe a professional would better serve you at this point. It sounds like you were seriously wounded by this situation and you need to work through getting to a happier place in your life. That's not going to happen on an internet forum.
I Like You Sprint Panda Girl. Yes i Know. Just Got Off The Phone With long Time Friend Crying Because Of Whats Happening These Days This World. Falling Apart Fast! I Pray Everynight! For Everyone! But I Still Wake Up! Because Of My Son! Trying To Give Him The Best Happiness I Can Under The Circumstances. Is Hard! Anyway, I Think You Are A Goody.
The Councelor Deal? Hun. At Least Here Anyway Are Suffering Just As Bad As Everyone Else! Just Being Human And Doing What Is Right. A Counselor Can Speach Us On The Things Even They Arent Really Certain Of Themselves! Yes Luv There Is Alot Of Dammage Here! However There Is Alot Of Even Worse Dammage Throughout The Rest Of The world! Even If Cardboard House Is The destiny, I Will Still Be Fighting! My Son! He Is The Future! Big Hugg! Thanks So Much For Your Compassion! Its The Real People That Will Eventualy Make The Difference!
Hi Speed! You Are Awsome! However Through My Life Experiences etc. I Can Tell You Are Quite ****! However Big Pain In The Butt Also!!! Filam You are! Nice Mix! And Oh Sooo Strong And Hard Headed! Ohhh Lordy Save The World From The Speed Girl!!!! HaHa. Been With At Least 25 Of You! Without Really Being With You! I like Your Funny! I Appreciate And Respect Your Humor! Though You Actually Scare Me Being So terribly Close To Other Ways Of Being! I Respect You! Hot Mamma You Are! At 40 I Wonder If Hot Mamma Ever Going To Be Hot Mamma With Good Forever And Always Kind Of Heart????? Interesting!!!!
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Originally posted by speed_025: I agree Sprint had a hard time understanding it. But I can rely a few, Im halh filipino and spend half of my life in there.
First for most filipino the tradition is close family ties. You don't throw your relatives out of your house specially when they don't have a place to stay. In his case I dunno he didn't mentioned it.
Second he said the mother in law help in cosigning to buy the house and ask to rent the upstair ( If I got that right)so basically the mother in law is sharing part of the mortgage?
Third he said his wife has got good credit , the mother exelent credit. How can an alient ( if his wife is) get good credit ( alien has no credit history for a start)If the mother has exelent credit ( how can she be a crook?)
Third he hit the wife by accident ( he said) but his hands are hurting ( so how hard did he hit her?)
Fourth he keep saying my son, when this is both their son, seems to me he wanna claim his son for himself.
He said filipino community don't testify against filipino community ( that's BS ). Why are you suing the whole filipino community by the way?
About his business ( ain't in divorce you have settlement which will be agreed by both parties?) He din't mentioned divorce either.
lastly he said his son is 4 years old they got married before having the baby....4 years married.
So tell me how can it be an immigration issue?
sorry but I think you need a therapist for a start.
Listen mister, if you want to fix this you need to do something about it. You crying to your friends won't do diddly. If your wife is committing a crime it is your responsibility to call the authorities. If you don't you are teaching your son a bad lesson. You're no better than the people who pretend not to see a rape taking place and continue walking.
One thing I will agree with you is the thing with some Asians not liking Hispanics. It seems to go both ways. My brother's fiance is Asian and she said its been that way for a long time. No explanation. Its like the Hatfields and McCoys. LOL. But don't worry about that or the rest of the world. Save yourself first.
The Phillipines were invaded by the Spaniards in the mid 16th century and remained under Spain's rule up to the Spanish American War in 1898 when they became an American possession. The country's name "Phillipines" is derived of and was named so in honor of King Phillip II of Spain.
The Phillipinos not liking Spainiards/Hispanics, has to do with them being under Spain's rule for many, many years and hence are not in favor of them.
.....I may condemn what you say, but I will risk my life for that you may say it - Voltaire!
To SIS. I Did Contact Authorities, even Put It In Writing To CIS. Police? Forget It, dead end there Concerning Anything immigration. Or Anything At All Domestic. If your married. Like i Mentioned earlier we go To Court In 2 weeks For divorce/prop. division etc. I suceeded In getting Equal Joint And Physical Custody Of My son Last month. When Everything Started I knew very little about immigration Rules, Laws, etc. Yes I Do Blame Myself For being too trusting! However i Think I was More Hurt When I begged For CIS And ICE For Help. Didnt get It. In My Situation I assure You I Tryed Every Avenue To resolve this. I really was On My Own! in 2005/2006 i assure You The Authorities Did Nothing! Now I see things Are changing. Probably Because Election Year? The Crying I was refering To previos Post/thread/whatever was A Friend Of Mine crying Because Of The Terrible Mortgage crisis etc. Affecting Many!!! I Really Enjoy reading The Posts/threads Here. Though For Some Im Not Sure They Have really experienced For themselves Just How flawed The System really Is? Soo Many On Here However Are GREAT! I feel It. And It Does Help hearing Others Stories. And The information These great People put On Here Is Wonderful!! Thank You.
Originally posted by sis: Dcwtech if what you said about the house is true all you need to do is stop paying for it. After that sue for damages. The amount you gave them for payments you can get back. You should be able to get it back as long as you can show proof. Do you have canceled checks? If your name is not on the loan documents or anything else then you have a right to that money back.
I think there are details being left out. Probably things that are embarrassing. Or, he was in on it and got ousted after their need of him vanished. The flop house as you described could be emptied out with one call to immigration. Why not make the call? They are all illegals, aren't they? Didn't you know it is a felony to harbor an illegal? If you continue to pay the mortgage you are an acomplice. You are looking at more jail time if you don't put a stop to it.
All The Things Ive Experienced i Thought were illegal too! But Even After My attemps With ICE And CIS. They Didnt seem Concerned, Frustrating! VERY! I Did Withdraw My Sponsorship. Hopefully In The Divorce The Judge Is More Helpful. my Last resort. Thanks anyway sis
So, if you withdrew your sponsorship, if immigration is harsh on your wife, and she will not, or cannot appeal any decision they might make, then you will have taken away your sons mom.
I happen to know, that children do grow up quick and sooner than later they will have there own oppinion. When grown up, your son, will find out what you did and that it was your action that deprived him of his mom.
Let's just say - if I would be that son, I would never forgive you.
.....I may condemn what you say, but I will risk my life for that you may say it - Voltaire!
Originally posted by USVIPGuesT: No matter wthere hey are come from...nothing to do with their attitude..."IT'S NOT A COUNTRY, RACE or ETC. IT'S a PEOPLE".
What???
.....I may condemn what you say, but I will risk my life for that you may say it - Voltaire!
Some People On Here Say Report It! Some Say Dont! Some Say If I Hadnt It Would Be Bad For My Son! Some People Say Otherwise! When I Did Withdraw, I Wrote The Letter from My car Having Lived There For a week While 8 - 12 people Were Living In the Home I Put Everything I Had In This World into. Also My Business There. no Worky no Money! No Eat! They Had Taken Everything from Me. Thats When After Contacting authorities, ICE & CIS. CIS Said all I Could Do was Withdraw My Sponsorship. DESPERATE FOR HELP I WAS! I Wasnt getting It. Im Sorry I Had To Do That. They Prevented Me From Seeing my Son, They Broke Every Rule, Get This!!! After seeing What They Were Doing To me. And I Made It Clear I Was Not Going To Ignore Their actions!!! Because It Could Affect Everyone Including My Sons Future! my Wife "remember a Woman!!! Called the Police on Me, No Arguing, No Yelling, No abuse Of Any kind. I Spent 99% In My office. She told Them she Just wanted Me Out Of The House! They said Sorry maam He Has Every Right To Be Here As You Do! week Goes By. She Calls The police Again. No yelling, No Arguing, No Abuse Of any kind! Again She Told Them The same thing, She Just wanted Me To Get Out Of the House! They said Maammm!!! Unless There Is Physical violence Or abuse He Has Every Right To Be Here as you do! Few Weeks Later They All pretend To want To Fix Things, Nice To Me, And Make good On All The Broken Promises Etc. We Go Out One Night She Gets Drunk And Picks An argument Out Of Thin Air! We Are Driving Home Me Driving And Her In Passenger Seat. She Is Yelling, screaming, Acting Crazy In The car, I Think She Was Trying To Make Me wreck "We Were On The Highway" She Through Her Arms In Front Of Me, I Instinct Pushed Her Back Away From Me, She Droped Her Arm And My Hand Hit Her Between Her Eyes. She Got Quiet. we Get Home. 10 minutes Later Police Show Up And Im arrested For hitting her! Etc. Etc... Etc.... I Will Tell You If A Woman says A Man Hit Her Here Where I Live! The Man Will lose!!! Period!!! What Would You Have Done???? Or Anyone Else On Here That Would Like To Remark On This???
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I simply cannot believe that anyone plans something like this through and through from the beginning. As I said yesterday, I would like to hear the other side to the story.
Calling ICE, because they kept you from your son, right? Did ICE help you get to your son - NO. Imagine ICE would respond to every domestic dispute where an American wants to get rid of his foreign born estranged wife/husband. They would have to put aside the immigration business all together. You had to figure out for yourself how to get to your son. You might as well could have proceeded without ICE. In domestic disputes, it's the heat of the moment, they (your wife/mother in law) control you, you want to control them. The ones that really suffer although are the children - we always do everything in their best interest, but for real it is our selfishness, or insecurity that we are protecting.
The hitting incident: Stuff like this (that men have to hit women) because they screamed at them, or because they thought they wanted them to crash or some stuff like that - that is a crock of s.h.i.t! The reason why the law is on a woman's side, is because they are physically weaker than men - and because it is well known that the majority of men, instead of arguing or defending himself intellectually, rather makes use of his muscle power. That my friend is well known to the law, and that's why we have these laws and women are protected.
My ex called immigration - thought he can get rid of me that way. It backfired big time!! I've been through spousal abuse, I know what I am talking about. It took me years to muster up the guts to call the police, but once I did, he realized that he has no chance against me anymore - and that is when the marriage fell apart completly, because he had nothing to control anymore but his d.a.m.n boring self.
When you said yesterday, that the law made you go through some sort of program where you had to admit that you hit your wife, you said you lied to graduate that program, because you are of the opinion that you did not hit your wife. The incident that you are describing, tells even me that you did hit her. So you might want to live up to it and admit to yourself that you did, because as long as you don't, you will not be able to move on.
If you go into another relationship with the same opinion, I can almost guarantee you, that this relationship will end up the same way.
"You will have to be change you want to see in this world!" - Mahatma Ghandi
.....I may condemn what you say, but I will risk my life for that you may say it - Voltaire!
Like I said Unbelievable! at the end Of The Anger mngmt Program You Have To Write a Letter Saying You Physicaly assaulted Your Spouse! Actually I Did Learn Alot! Did I Hit her? YES! Was It Intentional? NO Self Defense Yes! And as far as The weaker statement about Women??
