NeedHelpFast, you are welcome to your opinion, since this forum does not yet restrict such, for me or you.
However, I have no problem admitting that I have used this forum to work my way through the most horrible experience of my life and with all candor, I must admit it has helped, even though there are those I am sure who think some kind of sexist monster has been created/set free.
Maybe more important where you are concerned, I note that since you joined this forum earlier this month your postings are all very pro-illegal alien and subsequently pro-criminal to one extent or another. Subsequently, you should be thankful this is America and you have access to this forum; I doubt you'd be so blantant or bold if you were in South America.
As for my wanting attention, at least, right or wrong, I have something to say.
..oh, and let me guess...your female and probably an immigrant or the result of illegal immigrants or in some way, shape or form benefiting from their cause. But not to worry, you and yours will win, this country has long since been subverted from within and there really isn't any way we going to throw them all out. or stop them from coming.
Meanwhile, why are you addressing me? Who pulled your chain? Why don't you go post some more pictures of Illegal Aliens Marching with their Mexican Flags?!
Originally posted by MajKarma: NeedHelpFast, you are welcome to your opinion, since this forum does not yet restrict such, for me or you.
However, I have no problem admitting that I have used this forum to work my way through the most horrible experience of my life and with all candor, I must admit it has helped, even though there are those I am sure who think some kind of sexist monster has been created/set free.
Maybe more important where you are concerned, I note that since you joined this forum earlier this month your postings are all very pro-illegal alien and subsequently pro-criminal to one extent or another. Subsequently, you should be thankful this is America and you have access to this forum; I doubt you'd be so blantant or bold if you were in South America.
As for my wanting attention, at least, right or wrong, I have something to say.
..oh, and let me guess...your female and probably an immigrant or the result of illegal immigrants or in some way, shape or form benefiting from their cause. But not to worry, you and yours will win, this country has long since been subverted from within and there really isn't any way we going to throw them all out. or stop them from coming.
Meanwhile, why are you addressing me? Who pulled your chain? Why don't you go post some more pictures of Illegal Aliens Marching with their Mexican Flags?!
Sorry Maj, this is a public forum, and that means you take the risk of the public reading your postings. I was interested in the annulment vs. divorce issue and stumbled across your postings degrading women.
It's none of my business really, you are entitled to your opinion, so am I.
I am glad the forum has helped you, even though in former postings you come across as quite superior to those who frequent this forum. I am glad to hear that the people who you have verbally degraded have helped you in some way.
...And your assumptions about me, at least, are incorrect.
A close reading of my myriad of postings here would reveal that I am not without self criticism and am well aware that I am far from perfect. There was a time when my Military Service, education not limited to an Engineering Degree and Stanford MBA, and other accomplishments and successes spoke for me and I was reasonable cocooned from all of this because I stood firmly on the otherside of the "Glass Ceiling". Those days are over, but not just for me and those like me, as "Equality" in this country did not raise anyone up, it pushed most of us who add a historical advantage..down. To the point now where "Money" dictates pretty much everything. If I were the man I was 10 years ago, I would not be here, would never have met my Belorussian wife and would probably be doing what a number of my wealthy peers have done...escaped to places like New Zealand, France and other places where their money can buy them what they once had here. Now, the police and courts see us as all the same...it's good for you and yours...bad for me and mine. That is not yet altogether true but become so slowly.
Got_Faith ends her postings with God Bless America ! Love IT ....or LEAVE it ! Trust me when I say many of the wealthy are leaving..NAFTA was part of preparing that way but that is a deep subject I dare not really go into.
As for misjudging you...I hear your tone but am sure you are on the other side of the fence from me and mine who are fighting to put/keep it up..as pointless as I am sure it is. Yes, I guess I am not just a Sexist but also a Racist, which is why I was so thrilled by my White Russian.
Anyway, you won't have to opportinity to engage me for much longer, I am leaving soon enough for me but maybe not soon enough for others ;|
Do you think your ancestry should give you privilege? What they did is their accomplishments, not yours. Why do you have to lean on what they did? Your like one of those crazy sports fans. You know all the facts and figures of each player and what they did. All the while you weigh 300 lbs and can barely walk. Your pride is misplaced. All I see is someone who got caught in some kind of scam and lost their ill gotten gains.
I was under the impression justice is blind, shouldn't it be? If Im stopped by the police for speeding should I just get a wink and a nod since Im white?
What exactly can money buy in New Zealand or France that it can't buy here? Im really curious. Explain the secret of NAFTA. Im white, how come I got left out. I have some money too. Clue me in, I missed the memo. Oh wait, Im a women. My brother is fairly well off so I'll pass it on to him, Ok?
Do you think your ancestry should give you privilege? What they did is their accomplishments, not yours. Why do you have to lean on what they did? Your like one of those crazy sports fans. You know all the facts and figures of each player and what they did. All the while you weigh 300 lbs and can barely walk. Your pride is misplaced. All I see is someone who got caught in some kind of scam and lost their ill gotten gains.
I was under the impression justice is blind, shouldn't it be? If Im stopped by the police for speeding should I just get a wink and a nod since Im white?
What exactly can money buy in New Zealand or France that it can't buy here? Im really curious. Explain the secret of NAFTA. Im white, how come I got left out. I have some money too. Clue me in, I missed the memo. Oh wait, Im a women. My brother is fairly well off so I'll pass it on to him, Ok? ===============================================
No, it's not okay and frankly, I would prefer you not address me again. Go "Cluck" at someone else lady.
A close reading of my myriad of postings here would reveal that I am not without self criticism and am well aware that I am far from perfect. There was a time when my Military Service, education not limited to an Engineering Degree and Stanford MBA, and other accomplishments and successes spoke for me and I was reasonable cocooned from all of this because I stood firmly on the otherside of the "Glass Ceiling". Those days are over, but not just for me and those like me, as "Equality" in this country did not raise anyone up, it pushed most of us who add a historical advantage..down. To the point now where "Money" dictates pretty much everything. If I were the man I was 10 years ago, I would not be here, would never have met my Belorussian wife and would probably be doing what a number of my wealthy peers have done...escaped to places like New Zealand, France and other places where their money can buy them what they once had here. Now, the police and courts see us as all the same...it's good for you and yours...bad for me and mine. That is not yet altogether true but become so slowly.
Got_Faith ends her postings with God Bless America ! Love IT ....or LEAVE it ! Trust me when I say many of the wealthy are leaving..NAFTA was part of preparing that way but that is a deep subject I dare not really go into.
As for misjudging you...I hear your tone but am sure you are on the other side of the fence from me and mine who are fighting to put/keep it up..as pointless as I am sure it is. Yes, I guess I am not just a Sexist but also a Racist, which is why I was so thrilled by my White Russian.
Anyway, you won't have to opportinity to engage me for much longer, I am leaving soon enough for me but maybe not soon enough for others ;|
Hey Maj,
Lighten up will ya? I didn't think the pic of the Mexican would get to you that much, I posted it upon your request, LOL
Listen, we all have a story to tell. Obviously, you were (are) hurt very deeply by your wife. I can't help that she mistreated and took advantage of you, but I am sorry that it happened. It's unfortunate, you seem like a very genuine person, except it's buried behind alot of wounded and misplaced feelings. It's hard when recovering from such a horrible experience not to become bitter, especially towards members of the gender that betrayed you. Many people experience this swing of the pendulum and go to one side of raw emotion to the other, and typically transfer these feelings on all, instead of on one, or better yet, instead of processing them appropriately. Feelings can be a scary thing, especially to one who is quite analytical and used to being in control. Feelings are one thing that are very, very difficult to control, even to one who is trained in things of the emotional realm. This is quite common, but I have news for you...it will get better. You have a right to be angry and upset, you were betrayed on such a deep level by someone you made yourself very vulnerable to. It's ok to feel that anger. But what are you going to DO with the anger? Are you going to let it control you, or are you going to control it?? It's going to take time to heal. Being smart has nothing to do with knowing how to process emotion, especially painful emotion. Not many people learn this in school, not sure if you did or not, but it's different when you are going through something like this yourself. It's ok to ask for help, it's ok to feel, you need to in order to go on with your life. It may be helpful to assist the help of someone who is trained in dealing with the pain and betrayal that comes with seperation that you are feeling. Sorry, I didn't mean to psychoanalyze you, and I apologize if I was out of line. I had to remind myself that we are dealing with hurting people on this forum and hurting people have a tendency to hurt others. I don't know if this helps or makes things worse for you, I am just offering an olive branch to you if you'll take it. No need to respond if you don't want to, just offering something for you to think about.
{NeedHelpFast), there really isn't anything to be said that I have not said and remain sure of, but your compassionate offer of an "Olice Branch" does give me cause to turn back for a moment and tip my hat in thanks.
As for my wife, who is now amongst her friends and family in Belarus, I can do no more but hope her parents vent the poison influence of her treacherous girlfriends here and who knows, maybe she will come to her senses, as no man's love and care for her would endure as mine has. Menawhile, I am going to shove our lives in storage and return to Texas, even though it isn't with any great inspiration or hope for the future, since afterall, what's the real point except to live on until fate lets me off the hook or puts me back on it as the case may be. I will not cooperate with any court/divorce..let them and her do as they will, it is all a challenge for God as far as I am concerned..he can choose to declare himself, perpetuate, embrace and do as he will....for now I am tired of fighting for or against much of anything. I am reminded that both Bush and Benedict Arnold are/were Conneticut Yankees...that we lost the Alamo, that Sodomites, Divorcees, Baby Killers, and Illegal Immigrants have more rights and help than some white guy like me who sure as hell doesn't want to end up a stupid martyr for standing against the tide. What can be said that I have not said? Therapy? I don't need therapy, I need to rebuild a small fortune and find someplace to ride out this mess so many of you are so proud of.
MajKarma you need to focus on your future and create a better life than what you are currently leading. Remember the best revenge is a life well lived. If you could put all that energy into treating yourself as well as you deserve you might wake up one morning a happier man. Good luck. Life is too short to waste on regrets.
Hey jeanniemajic - MajKarma left this board a while back, but I'm sure he would appreciate your kind comments. Just didn't want you to expect a response.
Much has happened since I left this forum, my brother, a year younger than me died in July and I went back to Austin, only to realize there was no going back and then put a few thousand miles on my car going here and there trying to find someplace I wanted to start over. I went all over Texas, everything has changed in the past 20 years, not Even Phoenix or Las Vegas held any interest for me. so I returned to So Cal in time to watch the Mortgage/Real Estate implosion and to see I was right about all these zero lot line cracker boxes. I won't go deep into that subject except for me it is truly a case of Misery Loving Company. My wife (she has not suceeded in divorcing me yet) is living in Dana Point amongst her girlfriends that have done the same to their husbands. I have pretty much stopped weeping; even the deepest soul has just so many tears he can shed. The Beraussian Embassy wants me to give them phone records and a complete accounting of my wife and her friends, but even now I can not find it in me to harm her, even though I now know the worst is all true and that these people are the worst kinds of criminals. In my mind, you can not love someone in one hand and harm them with the other. Mind you, I do not love her girlfriends and co-conspirators whom I wish the very worst for, but I can not go turn them over to ----- without harming her and the boy.
So, what am I here to say? I found no woman to compare to her and I still love this woman even though she has betrayed me in every imaginable way and has shown great cruelty the few words I have had with her. It is all about money and lifesyle...this I knew and know, and so, again, I am going to try to be her champion and win her back. I am not the man I was, not nearly as strong as I once was, but I have to try.
As for my opinions about women, they have not changed, nor do I recommend any American marry an immigrant wife...the odds are all bad and men are most likely to get screwed in the process. Can someone tell me of a case of Spousal Abuse where the woman is the abuser? Am I the only one? Whatever the case, I have returned and will watch this forum and we will see what happens.
I thank you and everyone who has taken an interest and shown empathy for my plight. I must not be typical or normal or mature or by whatever definition Up To what has been done to me as I am bleeding inside as much as the day she left and obviously I can not get over it, it has damaged me in ways I can't explain. I guess I really loved the girl and her betrayal and treatment outweighed everything else. I am at my end, nothing will ever be right and I can't deal with it all anymore.
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