MajKarma, Thanks for posting this link. Unfortunately I was unable to open some of the '.doc' folders, so I sent an email to them. Maybe it's just my computer, who knows!
I've been reading through this post ... I'm sorry you're going through all this He11 ! I wish you well !! Just know that these things DO happens to us women as well !!
God Bless America ! Love IT ....or LEAVE it !
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There is something about these Russian/Belarussian Women..I have never seen it in any America or other nationality. It is a very deep mystery to me, as I have had scores of women chase me all my life I had no interest in, but have been driven near madness by what I once thought was mine.
I guess Love has a mind of it's own and being philosophical it won't help much since it doesn't really care about right or wrong.
I guess its a good example of what Jesus meant when he said "Man Does Not Live By Bread Alone".
It is very difficult to prove immigration benefit fraud. The reason for this is because American spouses have it in their head that marriage is not only based on love and respect for each other, but also connected to immigraton status. The immigrant spouse is totally dependent on the US spouse to file the petition, pay the fees, provide the home, etc. This creates an atmosphere where US spouse can exhibit controlling mentality on the marriage. If that occurs, no one in a reasonable setting, would tolerate that type of relationship very long despite the promises. In some cases, physical abuse, which I have personally witnessed with some friends of mine, is prevalent. Finally, in fiancee visas, the difficulties to make the marriage work and to sustain the relationship helps produce the high divorce rate with 90 days of marriage, the conditinal green card, and lack of physical contact because of distance. Yet, the web site mentions nothing of this and blames everything on immigrants.
Yes, there is immigration fraud, particularly in document fraud, But it is not so with immigration benefit fraud if you take the factors that I have given in the context of the marriage visa.
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
I appreciate what you and others have had to say,and of course your sympathy.
Unfortunately, I have learned in the past few days that my wife and her network of girlfriends are pushing forward with their plans and are getting help from numerous source, Russian, Belarussian and American. I wife has it timed so she will be in Belarus when our divorce will be heard in court and I expect she will have her new attorney there to push forward her agenda, since her initial attorney that advised her throughout the Green Card Process has withdrawn for fear of being pulled into an expanded criminal case.
ICE/Immigration does not care since my wife and her network of girlfriends and family who have or are in the process of doing the same are just screwing over a bunch of stupid American Men who should have known better. If they were Illegal Aliens of Terrorist it would be different but who really cares about a bunch of Gold Digging Women? After all, this is the land of "Opportunity" and these are very determined Opportunists with minds and heart that even the most cold blooded mercenary couldn't keep up with.
There is no help in any direction. If I could afford a good attorney, I could at least have the marriage annulled for fraud and then seek damages against all involved, but its a dead end effort that would be worthless in a sea and time of such widespread injustice.
Ironically, my wife and her friends have many women friends who want to escape Belarus and Russia and not that she is legal she will be able to invite them here and even if she didn't, there are plenty of men out there who'd be thrilled to be her next champion and bedpartner/arm-candy.
This is the kind of women these are and if anyone out there thinks their Immigrant Wife is not of the same cloth, just wait a while, odds are you are in for a horrible awakening just as I am experiencing.
I will either survive this or I won't. All of this here have been words and sentiment; I have not gotten any substantive help..NO ATTORNEY has stepped forward..No One has given me a name to call. I am going to be used and dumped and have my life left in pieces I don't know how to put together again and mostly I have heard denial and excuses.
But I do appreciate your sympathy, even if you are wrong about everything working out okay.
How is it possible for your ex to be in her home country while the hearing for the divorce requires both parties, and their counselors if one is there, to be present. You should counter sue in the divorce proceeding if she does not show up. Generally, you can do this within 30 days of the hearing. I found a web site for you http://www.completecase.com/?referrer=google&campaign=divorce
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
Again I thank you and the others for your interest, empathy, sympathy, understanding and efforts to be of help.
In response to your latest comments, I want to clarify a number of things about my relations with Aksana: 1) I met her here, 2) After a brief period of dating she moved in with me and we lived closely hour to hour day after day for 7 months before we were married. 3) I had a Palm Nursery at the time and lived withing the Nursery where we spent all of our time together..slept, ate, played, talked...we did it all and frankly, I never spent so much time with anyone day after day. 4) I loved her from the moment I met her and loved her more every day as I helped her learn English, go through the Extended Visa process and everything that took 3 years to bring her son here and "Americanize Them"...this was not a casual relationship or marriage and to this moment I do not understand what was going on inside her head beause everything she has done is not the woman I know. Moreover, I know that her friends and SON have played a major role in what she has done.
AS for the court date..it has not been set and I have no idea what she is thinking except I am seeing on "The Boy's MySpace" that they are going to Belarus on July 2nd and returning August 1st. I don't want a divorce, so anything that furthers that is a good thing, but I can of course do nothing if she won't talk to me, as has been the case. Odds are everything bad we here about such women is true and she is and has been doing it. Odds are she has a man helping her. Odds are all the worst is all true, but what can I do about it? She has not really spoken to me except to say she doesn't want to just "Survive"..she wants to "Live" meaning she wants a life and lifestyle I can't give and she thinks she can find there amongst her friends at the beach. Let's face it, she is gorgeous and there are lots of men out there with more to offer than I have... a Mercenary Heart can do just about anything to get what it wants and I don't need to go into what I have observed "Women" are capable of for money.
I believed she loved me but has killed whatever love and bond she had to me and in a few years she will either be glad or regret what she has done. As for me, I am going to shove our life/lives into a POD and go to Dallas to see if I can start over. It is certainly a better plan than my hanging myself as a sign of just how hurt and harmed I am. I do not beleive any woman can or could ever replace this woman for me..I am 52 and know what I am talking about.. 52 and crazy because I still keep hoping to find a way to win her heart and mind back but she has done so many bad things and her close friends have been such a deep part of it that I am sure they are all just hoping a mountain doesn't fall on them. However, I do not under estimate the evil people can do and be fine with it and convince themselves that they are not evil....we all can think of examples of this.. hell, there are thousands..maybe millions of women out there who have divorced their husbands and jumped right intop bed and a relationship with another man...women can live with anything. Men on the other hand..and you should think about it before you start saying that men are the same..have a hard time being intimate with a woman for a long long time after being betrayed and I personally know of 7 men still very damaged after many years. But don't get me started about the "Evil Seed In Women"...I believe it with all my mind and heart and to this moment question is women really do have souls.. sorry, but I have nothing but proof that they don't.
Anyway, I am not dead and have no idea what tomorrow will bring...I miss that horrible woman..miss her more than I can say.
The ONLY person who can help you is YOU. More than likley she fell into a bad group and she followed them. Its probably no more than that. The cruelty your getting now is nothing more than their attempt at putting space between you and them. A way of pushing you away. She isn't coming back. Her and her friends will get theirs. They always do. Do not sit there feeling sorry for yourself. Do something to improve yourself. If you were able to find one good looking girl then you can do it again. She isn't the only Aksana out there. Maybe the next one will be worth keeping.
You voted democrat. This country is not worth sneaking into any more.
Posts: 5852 | Location: San Antonio TX | Registered: 06-08-2007
I must extend my sincere thanks to Babybeh for his comment and the chuckle..nothjing like a pissant to assume that a man who can openly and honestly bare his heart and soul as weak and what was it he called me..oh, a little b i t c h. Well, who ever you are, I am not little, I am 6'4" 210pds, an ex-marine who stood at the fall of Saigon, this is my 4th wife, my 3rd fortune and while the best of me may well be behind me, I was never smart mouth p u n k or woman abuser or user and for those with insight enough to see, I have never had a problem standing up to a mob or stating what I felt and believed, no matter how unpopular.
Some here have assumed my weakness as weakness, but a weak man's love and commitment blows with the wind, turns with the crowd and won't suffer much for anyone but their own interests.
I wish I could toss this character a buck to go have another beer on me, as it is comments just like his that reminds me of what has always easily defined me from p i s s a n t s like him.
I guess this forum really has been therapy ;/
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Oh and as for defending "My Right" to speak, you are all in "My Country"...my family came here in 1607 were of the founders of Jamestown, I am a Veteran from a long line of Veterans with an only son that just returned from Iraq and the Persian Gulf. My 12th Grandfather fought at the Alamo and while none of you know who I really am, you may take my word for it when I say that I had been further and accomplished more than most here by the time I was 30. I lost over $6M in 2000 and there are two ex governors and 2 ex-presidents who know me. I know..this is what I got for posting without reserve in an open forum..even the mongrels and bugs get equal time.
Originally posted by MajKarma: To: Hudson and others interested,
Again I thank you and the others for your interest, empathy, sympathy, understanding and efforts to be of help.
In response to your latest comments, I want to clarify a number of things about my relations with Aksana: 1) I met her here, 2) After a brief period of dating she moved in with me and we lived closely hour to hour day after day for 7 months before we were married. 3) I had a Palm Nursery at the time and lived withing the Nursery where we spent all of our time together..slept, ate, played, talked...we did it all and frankly, I never spent so much time with anyone day after day. 4) I loved her from the moment I met her and loved her more every day as I helped her learn English, go through the Extended Visa process and everything that took 3 years to bring her son here and "Americanize Them"...this was not a casual relationship or marriage and to this moment I do not understand what was going on inside her head beause everything she has done is not the woman I know. Moreover, I know that her friends and SON have played a major role in what she has done.
AS for the court date..it has not been set and I have no idea what she is thinking except I am seeing on "The Boy's MySpace" that they are going to Belarus on July 2nd and returning August 1st. I don't want a divorce, so anything that furthers that is a good thing, but I can of course do nothing if she won't talk to me, as has been the case. Odds are everything bad we here about such women is true and she is and has been doing it. Odds are she has a man helping her. Odds are all the worst is all true, but what can I do about it? She has not really spoken to me except to say she doesn't want to just "Survive"..she wants to "Live" meaning she wants a life and lifestyle I can't give and she thinks she can find there amongst her friends at the beach. Let's face it, she is gorgeous and there are lots of men out there with more to offer than I have... a Mercenary Heart can do just about anything to get what it wants and I don't need to go into what I have observed "Women" are capable of for money.
I believed she loved me but has killed whatever love and bond she had to me and in a few years she will either be glad or regret what she has done. As for me, I am going to shove our life/lives into a POD and go to Dallas to see if I can start over. It is certainly a better plan than my hanging myself as a sign of just how hurt and harmed I am. I do not beleive any woman can or could ever replace this woman for me..I am 52 and know what I am talking about.. 52 and crazy because I still keep hoping to find a way to win her heart and mind back but she has done so many bad things and her close friends have been such a deep part of it that I am sure they are all just hoping a mountain doesn't fall on them. However, I do not under estimate the evil people can do and be fine with it and convince themselves that they are not evil....we all can think of examples of this.. hell, there are thousands..maybe millions of women out there who have divorced their husbands and jumped right intop bed and a relationship with another man...women can live with anything. Men on the other hand..and you should think about it before you start saying that men are the same..have a hard time being intimate with a woman for a long long time after being betrayed and I personally know of 7 men still very damaged after many years. But don't get me started about the "Evil Seed In Women"...I believe it with all my mind and heart and to this moment question is women really do have souls.. sorry, but I have nothing but proof that they don't.
Anyway, I am not dead and have no idea what tomorrow will bring...I miss that horrible woman..miss her more than I can say.
S/
This is the most honest statement from you that I have read. I have no doubt her friends are urging her on. This does not mean what she is doing is right, but explains a couple of things your wife is doing. The son probably never liked the marriage, which is sad because it would mean he never liked you for one reason or another. As for her, she probably still loves you unless the whole dating, moving in, marriage, and divorce was all planned. It that is the case, it is still hard to prove in a court of law despite your feelings.
If you going to Dallas, a new law was passed that now requires everybody to buy instead of .
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
...bad whether tends to keep the bugs down and riff raff away... here in Californis we have no whether and the bugs have taken over...but then..not just in California.
As for that "Most Honest Comment You Have Heard Comment"...I can be even more honest when I say to can be glad you didn't say what that implies to my face. I did like your Animated Icone tho ;/
Originally posted by MajKarma: As for that "Most Honest Comment You Have Heard Comment"...I can be even more honest when I say to can be glad you didn't say what that implies to my face.
imply what?
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
Originally posted by MajKarma: As for that "Most Honest Comment You Have Heard Comment"...I can be even more honest when I say to can be glad you didn't say what that implies to my face.
imply what?
That everything else prior was a lie. Even if you did say it to his face, nothing would have happened.
Something upset the major. He went from pouring out his heart and hinting at suicide to reaserting his machismo. The comments about Saigon, losing money, who he knows, and of course physical stature. None of it was that macho. Saigon fell. You lost 6 mil! Christ how do you lose 6 million. Ive just gotten close to having that much and there is no way I would let it slip through my fingers. Unless it wasn't yours to lose to begin with. Apparently your no match against a tiny Russian girl. Goes to show its not the size of the fighter but the size of the fight within.
You voted democrat. This country is not worth sneaking into any more.
Posts: 5852 | Location: San Antonio TX | Registered: 06-08-2007
Originally posted by davdah: That everything else prior was a lie. Even if you did say it to his face, nothing would have happened.
Something upset the major. He went from pouring out his heart and hinting at suicide to reaserting his machismo. The comments about Saigon, losing money, who he knows, and of course physical stature. None of it was that macho. Saigon fell. You lost 6 mil! Christ how do you lose 6 million. Ive just gotten close to having that much and there is no way I would let it slip through my fingers. Unless it wasn't yours to lose to begin with. Apparently your no match against a tiny Russian girl. Goes to show its not the size of the fighter but the size of the fight within.
No. MAjKarma was honest with himself and with the situation, and not generalizing about women as a whole or women from a particular country. He was assessing the situation from his perspective ONLY! The next step is to assess himself and to forgive himself, even if it is not his fault. There was something in the marriage that she did not like. It may have been how he acted, how he lived, etc. I am not saying the situation is his fault, nor I am saying it is her fault, but he has to start forgiving himself even if it means accepting certain things about himself that are not quite nice.
As for losing $6 million, it is very easy, particularly when it is paper money, like investments, although it can happen with real property too. I have been there. Like I said, I was a trustee baby. My trust, from what I have been told, had assets worth more than $28 million dollars. My monthly allowance was more than $2000. And it came all crashing down when I was 21. The DA had some ideas about what happened, but nothing for sure. And the person who was the trustee is still living in Brazil.
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
I guess I must be getting better by the fact that I'm amused and even chuckle a bit at the rhetorical bull---t I have gotten myself involved in here.
How do you lose millions? Maybe a better question is how do you make millions but for your information you can read about the fiasco where my ranches, 12 years of work and millions were ****ed down a deep hole here: http://www.robbevans.com/html/tlcinvest.html
Yes, I was offended by the implication that I lied or ever lie. Right or wrong, I never lie and while I have often been accused of using the truth like a sword, it has become a tool for carving out my own heart to display amongst people who would not even know when they should be flattered. It is of course my own fault, but this blog is severing a purpose..apparently.
Here is another truth. All my life I won at everything and anything I put my hand too. Not because I was neccessarily so superior, just that those around me were so inferior, under achievers....and yes genetically ..hhmmm..what is the word...of common stock...like a racehorse amongst cowponies. Often men hated me for the frogs my mere presense made so apparent. You can laugh, but the real laugh is on me, as arrogance and readiest to put all and any in their place, at any time, at whatever the cost, is now baring its terrible fruit. My being left to speak of this here and no where is else, as is everything that has brought me to this time and space and place.
All is fleeting, all is in a state of constant change from one extreme to another. I am seeing it. How did I let this White Russian with big t i t s cut my heart out? Because I like such women and she was the best and the worst of them all. The realizations are profound and I have no doubt now that I have run my course and will be surprised if anything or anyone will ever inspire or stir in me the drive to strive and build as I once did. Aksana is bad..no doubt about it. Her looks will fade, her t i t s sage, her son will go off his own way and within 10 years she will be wondering what she did as she looks at the slob she has then saddled herself with...such is karma. Me? I dount I will last another 10 years.. I smoke and tempt the devil at ever turn... I just don't care...not if she is not going to be with me.
So, make some smart a s s remark. Council me...speak to me as though you were capable of judging a pair of my socks. It doesn't matter if any hear me or grasp or empathize; I was always talking to myself and while the kind words and sympathy and affirmations were appreciated, I remain a stranger in a strange land. I get it.
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This most likely will be one of my last postings in this forum as I move on and decidely put much behind me. Aksana goes to Belarus thinking I am here still waiting with my heart in my hand, but am decidedly pulling my head out of my heart where she and those around her are concerned and because I have learned some of her friends are reading this forum, I will not say anything more about them except that ICE and the Embassys are now watching.
More important to me, is restating that contrary to comments from those who think they see or grasp something I have not considered, I want to re-affirm my conclusions and statements here, inclusive of my "Generalizations About Women" and more specifically about these immigrant women from the former USSR.
You can think and believe what you want, but even Freud referred to women as "The Dark Continent" and while nothing is ever 100% anything, I am convinced that the majority of these Immigrant Women are Gold Diggers, Users and Ready-Willing & Cocked to betray the men who Marry/Sponsor them. My bet is 1 in 4 of these relationships succeed and the 1 represent men who are in effect better than any other options their Immigrant Spouses see during and after they pass through the Green Card Doorways. I now know of 3 more divorces, for a total of 14 couples of those I met at various parties where their Russian Wives divorced and/or are in the process of divorcing their Spouse.
Whatever the truth is, Women Love Men who treat them like what they are..for a while, as well as those that treat them wonderfully, but ultimately "They Eat Their Mates" if not stroked and coaxed very carefully and as it is with the male and female black widow, most males are going to be eaten.
Again, think what you want, this is of course only my persepective, but if you have an Immigrant Wife who is not an ugly cow, I expect you to remember my comments and warning come the day they calmly and without any sign of remorse, begin eating you alive.
Moreover, marriage in this day and time is a very bad deal for men; you have a 2 out of 3 chance of getting screwed over and funding them as they use their *** upon their next victim, to say nothing of children and how women use their children...if they can. Sure, there are exceptions..I just do not know of any.
So, does this make me a "Woman Hater"...maybe, but not really, I have just become a realist who is finally waking up to what and how they are. I would be very pleased to hear any examples of where I am wrong...and I am not talking about anyone's "Mothers" as we all are bound to defend and see our mother's as Saints.
This having been said, I will go about rebuilding a new fortune, getting back in shape and ...well, there is no point in saying what and how I am going to treat women from here out ;/
Originally posted by MajKarma: I guess I must be getting better by the fact that I'm amused and even chuckle a bit at the rhetorical bull---t I have gotten myself involved in here.
How do you lose millions? Maybe a better question is how do you make millions but for your information you can read about the fiasco where my ranches, 12 years of work and millions were ****ed down a deep hole here: http://www.robbevans.com/html/tlcinvest.html
Yes, I was offended by the implication that I lied or ever lie. Right or wrong, I never lie and while I have often been accused of using the truth like a sword, it has become a tool for carving out my own heart to display amongst people who would not even know when they should be flattered. It is of course my own fault, but this blog is severing a purpose..apparently.
Here is another truth. All my life I won at everything and anything I put my hand too. Not because I was neccessarily so superior, just that those around me were so inferior, under achievers....and yes genetically ..hhmmm..what is the word...of common stock...like a racehorse amongst cowponies. Often men hated me for the frogs my mere presense made so apparent. You can laugh, but the real laugh is on me, as arrogance and readiest to put all and any in their place, at any time, at whatever the cost, is now baring its terrible fruit. My being left to speak of this here and no where is else, as is everything that has brought me to this time and space and place.
All is fleeting, all is in a state of constant change from one extreme to another. I am seeing it. How did I let this White Russian with big t i t s cut my heart out? Because I like such women and she was the best and the worst of them all. The realizations are profound and I have no doubt now that I have run my course and will be surprised if anything or anyone will ever inspire or stir in me the drive to strive and build as I once did. Aksana is bad..no doubt about it. Her looks will fade, her t i t s sage, her son will go off his own way and within 10 years she will be wondering what she did as she looks at the slob she has then saddled herself with...such is karma. Me? I dount I will last another 10 years.. I smoke and tempt the devil at ever turn... I just don't care...not if she is not going to be with me.
So, make some smart a s s remark. Council me...speak to me as though you were capable of judging a pair of my socks. It doesn't matter if any hear me or grasp or empathize; I was always talking to myself and while the kind words and sympathy and affirmations were appreciated, I remain a stranger in a strange land. I get it.
Check yourself into a hospital right now! You have some serious psychological issues that concern me. You not only insulting women everywhere, you have insulted your own family and ancestors. What will they think of you now. You think blood will be thicker than water this time. To me, you are a Scott Peterson, a Jeffrey Dalmer, Jack the Ripper. You need help and need help fast.
"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of our passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence." John Adams on Defense of the boston Massacre
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