So lets see.. are u saying a month ago everything was ok and 751 signed, and now after signing everything is not ok and u want to split hmmmm what do u think folks
Now seriously,Did you have any idea that she is possibly homosexual and if so can u prove it? Did you know for fact when u married she was this way? And if you are looking for a fight tonight .. is this so u can look for a police report for abuse from spouse and look to get a PFA? if answer is yes, then I say you have done your homework, and plan B is in place.
About 1/3 of i751 are pulled for interview. Some random, some for suspicion, some for lack of documention etc. you never know, its a roll of the dice.
I have a lot of ******* friends. I stay overnight at their houses when I visit them, as they live far away. We go out, get drunk, walk home, sleep it off. No hanky panky, we just like to party once in a while. DOES NOT MAKE ME A *******.
Maybe you could steal some silverware on your way out! You are feeling betrayed & hurt but your thinking of sticking her family with student loans as some way of exacting revenge, is not thinking right. You want a pound of flesh as compensation for being hurt? This type thinking will poisen you
Posts: 562 | Location: Tampa, FL, USA | Registered: 09-17-2003
The will not be responsible for your student loans. I thought my wife's family would be for mine, but after doing the proper research I found out that they will not.
The affidavit of support they filed on your behalf is only for public benefits and student loans are not public benefits for USCIS.
Also, if you name your wife or any of her family members on your MASTER PROMISARY NOTE FOR LOANS, they are only required there in case you dissappear so they can call them and locate you they will not be liable for any oustanding balance.
It is good to heard different opinions, but in this occasion it is different because nobody will advise you better than someone who is going through what you are going. Also many people give advice without knowing USCIS interpretations and decisions on this cases. It is very important that you get going to reach the requirements to apply for more than one waiver.
They will never get your money but you can't forget of ever coming back to the US.
JUS DOCUMENT YOUR EMOTIONAL ABUSE FROM YOUR WIFE and then you can have peace of mind, if you want I can email you an expert in your area that can analyze your situation and if you qualify write a report for you.
Hey.. I was looking for ur story and couldnt find it. was it unser another name before? In anyway, I feel for you because it truly sounds like you are in an emotional abuse situation. Just document everything, and whatever you do , do not get into any type of physical altercations with her!! everything you do from this point on you will have to think before reacting. If all goes well , I see no reason that you would have to leave the country. Besides, if u leave.... who's gonna pay those student loans
wow!!!cant believe it...lot of people have same kind of problems...wish u all the best JohnDoe...can you please give me ur previous ID cuz i didnt find any of ur previous posts...i would like to read them...I appreciate it...Pasha
one more thing please let us know about your I-751...my service center is Texas too....let me know where can i find your previous posts...thank you. Pasha
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Posts: 3162 | Location: USA | Registered: 08-30-2003
It is so disgusting and shameful to know how some people can even think to take the advantange of another human beings' kindness for their own sake. Just because your [JohnDoe] marriage won't work or not working, even though your wife is in fault for that, or just because you won't receive your status in US because of that, then it doesn't mean that you won't need to fulfull your moral obligations toward another human beings. Your wife or her family-member relied upon you and guaranted that loan for YOUR SAKE, and she even filed the AOS paper for you to live here, and that's how you gonna pay her back, or want to take your revenge just because she won't want to sponsor you anymore for your residency. As you know-she was not even obligated to you at first place for those loans, but she did it anyhow to help you out, and that's how you will try to even with her. Very good, bravo! I know understand that why people are so much talking about alien's mentality. I know that ALL aliens are not same like yours, but the people like yours are giving bad name to other aliens.
Always remember- "what goes around, always comes around". Everyone pays the price of their deeds over here in this world, instead of in hell or heaven. If you won't pay her back what you are supposed to, then you would pay those money anyhow somewhere, one way or another, maybe more. Taking somebody's bad wishes or putting somebody in pain, God will never let you have peace in your life, and I remember you saying about having a peace in your life, right? If you really want to pay back, then you don't need to be in America, instead whereever you would be, you can still pay to her towards those loan if you really would want to pay. Anyhow, isn't it you are talking about being in Canada or Australia or maybe in your country, so obviously you would work no matter what, then you can still make the payment towards those loans if you want to. Even though you don't want to return to US ever if you were deported, then still being a nice human beings, you can keep your morals up. Just because your wife could not keep her morals [as what you are saying], it doesn't mean that you have to be like her. If a human being will behave like animals then what would be the differences between human beings and animals. I think you can do better than her, right?
As far as her sexual preference goes, then it still doesn't make her a wrong person. Some people do realize about it later than earlier. She might be curious before, but now coming out of shadow. You should respect her for whatever she decides in her life, but it is seemed that you want to blame her for everything just because you can not get your residency thru her. I bet if you would have your residency already, then you won't be talking about her life or other stuffs, instead would be thinking about having threesome with her and her girlfriend, who ever she is. Always remember- Humanity is over than residency. Maybe not to you, but that's how I was raised- with MORAL VALUES.
Posts: 685 | Location: East Hampton [Long Island], New York [USA] | Registered: 10-08-2003
I couldn't have said it better than Sammy did. The fact is that IF one's spouse is a ******* or otherwise, that is not a reason to expect immigrant status from her. After all, had you know that she was ******* before marriage - you must ask yourslef _ would I have married her anyway.
If answer to that question is no, then why expect anything from the marriage?
Posts: 2163 | Location: USA | Registered: 07-25-2003
I can't say that I'm in the same situation as JohnDoe but I'm in a similar one: I filed (I-751) together with my wife (USC) in November. We've been having problems for a while and looks like we will be getting a divorce (we have been married and living in US for 3 1/2 yrs). What steps do I need to take to protect my chances for getting the conditions lifted? I went to USICS and got an extension for a year. I asked the person that stamped my passport what should I expect going forward and he said I would receive something by the summer. Looking at this site makes me beleive that that is highly unlikely and that I should make plans for being divorced before I receive an adjudication. This situation is nerve racking! I'm an honest professional that just wants to continue living in the states.
Having read all of the posts about divorce while I751 is pending, you should understand by now, that if you have the bona fide evidence of a good faith marriage, should your case be called up for review and you are not yet divorced, Aguila has posted comprehensive information as to the procedures in place for you to pursue your immigration cause.
Of course remaining married until the case has been adjudicated is the safest route, but I, for one, would never recommend such, as it is not the appropriate reason to stay together. However, there are many here who disagree with me.
Good luck.
Posts: 2163 | Location: USA | Registered: 07-25-2003
Thanks 4Now and Swissnut for noticing my post. I filed with the VSC in Nov 2003.
I don't think that I will stay married waiting for the adjudication.
I got married in good faith. Everyone that knows us can attest to this. In order to solve the difficult economic situation we had sunk in (CC Debt), I decided to take a well-paying job in another state and I ended up spending most of 2003 away from her. This helped us sort things out emotionally but it also helped us see that we were not meant to be together. At this moment, she wants to take a job outside of the US and is thinking of making this move in the next few months.
I think, based on what I've seen in other posts, that I must file for divorce, get it done with, and file an amendment to the I-751.
I think the chances that the I-751 gets adjudicated within the next 6 months are one in a million.
Do you agree that that is what I should do? Are my chances good for an approval of the I-751 waiver? How does it look that I spent so much time apart last year? Will they ask about this? What proofs should I provide to show a bona-fide marriage other than the ones I already submitted with I-751: Joint Checking, Joint Credit Card, Lease for our apt, Fotos of our wedding with entire family and friends, Fotos of us in many places around the US, etc.
So, you want to get a divorce simply because you realized that "it wasn't meant to be?" What about "for better or for worse?" Did that mean anything to you? Just because you don't feel head-over-heals in love anymore, you want to run away?
Posts: 870 | Location: Northern California | Registered: 09-16-2003
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hmmmm what do u think folks 
