Hi helpmeplease and welcome to ILW,
I am so sorry you have been through this ordeal.
First thing to do is to get out of that relationship quickly. The longer you are around him, the harder it will be to leave and the more harm he can cause.
Don't marry him, do not let him emotionally blackmail you either, no matter how sorry he will say he is.
Call DVIS..the number is in my signature.
The only way I think you can get money back from him is through the courts. You will need proof of this though..contract? receipts and so on.
If it isn't much though..I would advise you to just leave and forget the money. Your safety and mind is way more important.
I don't think reporting him to anyone about a possible scam marriage will do anything. It will be your word against his.
Please, if anything, speak to DVIS and they will tell you what to do next.
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