Are there any moral guidelines for someone here on a student visa? My husband (we are both american born), has become invloved with a 25 year old chinese immigrant whom he works with for "The City of New York". She tells me that she will become his next wife. We are married for 22 years and have 3 teenage children. I don't know what she thinks he can offer her, he also is HIV positive. Is there anything I can do?

please contact me at tray_ 675 @hotmail.com to help you deal with these situation if you are not HIV Postive i believe you need to move on with yuor life and you need a man who cares for you

tray

There are no moral guidelines. Neither your husband or the girl seem to possess any anyway if they are treating you this way. You either wait for your husband to get over his mid-life crisis or you cut your losses and get on with your life. Personally I would do the latter, one strike and you're out! Is she aware that he is HIV positive I wonder?

Be aware that this woman may be able to change immigration status from student to a first preference category (spouse of U.S. citizen) if he should divorce you and legally marry her. That may be what she is seeking.

I'm certain that is what she's after! Guess she figures she'll marry him, he'll die and she'll be a wealthy young woman. He has an inheritence that he never comingled, which I would not be intitled to if we divorce. Why else would a 25 yr. old want with a 46 yr old(hiv +) married man & father of 3! But I thought that the laws were tougher now about getting citizenship through marriage?

IMHO: Find a good divorce attorney and move on with your life; the situation between your husband and this other woman is not your problem. Even if his "inheritance" has not been commingled with your assets, a good attorney might be able to attach part of it for the benefit of your children, so they don't lose everything to their stepmother.

Regarding her eligibility to immigrate, if she marries a USC, she is eligible to apply for a green card (she'd only be eligible to apply for citizenship after she'd been a green card holder for 3 years.)

While there is a requirement of "good moral character", BCIS doesn't consider adultery evidence of a lack of it. More often, people have problems with this area if they have a criminal record.