Hello,

I filed my I751 with a waiver because I am no longer married to the same person that sponsored me. I filed it in Aug 2006 and I received my Interview notice in May 2007. My Interview is coming up in a couple of weeks an I wanted to see if anyone has gone through this before?? I was not married to my ex husband very long and when we were married he did not make very much money for us to buy anything big together. The man lived on his computer and never wanted to spend any time with me. He was also very verbally abusive towards me. I also found out that he started doing drugs! I got sick of this and decided to leave him before he decided to hit me.

Please let me know your inputs on this... I am currently remaried to someone in the Air Force and we have a child together. I do not want to lose my family over my past.

Thanks

Can someone please give me some advice??

Hi girl.

I was in a very similar scene like you. I got divorce too. Just make sure you have your copies of the taxes you filed with him and by yourself.

If you have proof of abuse, police report and all that you should keep it.

Now problem is that the application you filed is not longer valid to keep your status. What you need to do is contact Immigration Office Service Center (the phone # is on the receipt you have)

make an appointment to talk with an immigration officer and explain your case.

http://infopass.uscis.gov//

may be you will need to withdrawn your application and file a new one under your current marriage.

don't worry Shelly they wont kick you out of the country but make sure you do the right thing related to the documents

Thanks Personq. Well we didnt file any taxes together and this is the reason why:

We were married in June 2003 and I did not get a social till March 2004 so we could not claim taxes together in 2003. We split up in the fall of 2004 so when it was time to do 2004 taxes we were not together.

I dont have a police report on the abuse because there was nothing physical it was all just verbal and that he broke things in the house. I do however have a signed statement from him mother that she recently wrote for me stating that her son is a very difficult person to live with. She said that she knew the marriage was real but it just didnt work out.

I was told that I had to finish up with this case before I would be allowed to file a new one with my current husband.

Does anyone else have any advice???

Hi Shelly

Withdraw your 751 waiver application.

File new forms 130 485 i864 blah blah under new husband.

As long as your first husband did not make allegations of fraud in your file. You should be fine.

Your status will be terminated based on the first marriage, but not to worry, it will be adjusted under the new marriage.

Dont worry... just be happy 4now

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Originally posted by 4now:
Hi Shelly

Withdraw your 751 waiver application.

File new forms 130 485 i864 blah blah under new husband.

4now, why do you suggest withdrawing I-751 just before the interview?
I was thinking Shelly should go for the interview and see what happens. She may be approved and done with it...

Thanks for the comments... I was told by Immigration that I could not withdraw my I751 because I have to close this case (complete this case) before I could start a new one. I was told that if the I751 was denied I could file with my new husband but it had to wait to see what would happen with the original case.

Do you think the statement I have from my ex-mother in law is a good one?

Shelly,
I wanna give you a real, reality check here and so far,every advice givin to you is not real and not accurate.

You need to understand and realize one thing.Getting married or having a new husband after a divorce with the name man,means absolutely NOTHING,you can be denied anytime easily,regardless if you got remarried to a new U.S.citizen.Remember that.

That example someone gave you "if you get denied,file under your new husband" is actually not correct.

Here is the deal.

From what I understand,you guys never everh filed taxes tgether? were hardly married for a whole year and lived together?

Where are you by the way originally from?

How did you meet your originally husband, and how long have you guys dated and seen eachother before deciding to get married???
Will you ex husband vouch for you? will his parents,your ex in-laws vouch for you and testify your marriage to him was entered ONLY because of love (good faith) and your marriage was REAL (bonafide)

Do you have any bank accounts together? any trips taken? pictures? joint insurance,lifeinsurance, car insurance...travel tickets for trips taken together....same address on divers license???

You need to underthand,since your marraige and you guys living together was so so short.I do not see light for you,to tell you the truth.

You havr to proof,you came to this country ONLY for your husband and to get married to him because of love.Remember proof,not words,but u have to show evidence of those things....

Then once u have establish that,you have to proof your marriage was REAl,meaning you guys lived as a married couple and have and done things regular married people have and do...like mentioned above.

Then,by you getting married to another man,after u got divorced,while you are still a conditional resident,is a big big red alarm.

I have said it here so many times...Normal people do not get married after a divorce to someone else,that quick.Now,if I already scratch my own head because of that.Imagine how INS will view this thing.

Where are you originally from by the way???

and please remember,if you get denied you will put under removal...and people advice you "file under your new husband" just remember,you have to proof everyhting again...and this time,more than before and the doubts on INS eyes will be big...because,like i said,usually people remarry that fast,to try to secure their status in the US.
But past experience on here shows,people married to citizens still got deported for fraud.

Good Luck

First of all I would like to stress that I am Canadian. I had no reason in the world to leave my country except to marr the man that I thought was to be my life partner.

Yes, his mother has already wrote me a statement that she knows that the marriage was real but her son is very difficult to deal with and he has no ambition in life to move further besides working dead end jobs.

We did not own anything because my ex only made $800 a month and our rent was $400.

We met a year before we were married and had an online and phone relashionship because he lived in KY and I lived in Toronto.

Yes we had bank accounts together and I have proof of that. I also have an old loan paper from when I bought my first car showing my address as the same as his. Plus the co-signer on the loan was his best friend's mom.

Please read the thread of posts that explains why we split up. I have several statements from friends that I met through him that have also stated the marriage was real because we all did things together.

With my new marriage you are right it was quick but for good reason. We met in March of 2005 and he came to KY to see me in May of 2005. I got pregnant!!! So we decided to do the right thing and get married in September 2005. I love him very much there is no doubt about that. We own a home together and two cars. My life is much better now because my ex I was never going to get where I am now because he had no ambition in life. My husband is a very respectful man, he has been in the military for 17 years.

so, if you have the letter from the mom, the bank account and the car registration that's good but may not be enough.

You should also consult a lawyer and have two friends or your ex-mother in law to get an "affidavit in support of the i751 petition" legalized by a notary.

if you already have the appointment just go, but the officer can only close this application so you can file the new one. He won't complete the interview or grant any other status.

HBKHBK is right. It will look suspect. Keep in mind they know nothing of you, your history except for what you give them. Pregnancy is a good reason but many women trap men that way. That will be their first thought. Yours is a predicament since you have to prove two marriages.

I don't know that it is such a good idea to use the x-mother-in-laws letter. How would you feel if your mother wrote to him the things she wrote to you. It wasn't appropriate and will probably do more harm than good. The X will see you as trying to divide his family. Forget about him saying anything positive if asked. He will scream fraud and anything else thought of for revenge.

Use everything else. You may even want to tell him your not going to include the letter. That may actually help to recruit him to your camp.

Oh,
just remember,I am not saying something here to make you down or anything.Its just the way INS will see and view things...always try to see it from their view,since they decide.Not you!

Having a child is one thing...but marrying a man that make your pregnent is another.Usually people marry and then get married.Not get divorce shortly after get preganent by someone else,and then marry them.

Not thats something wrong,but on INS view,it will be looked differently.Having kid these days,does not mean anything such "i love him,he loves me"...

U need by the sworn affadavits,your marriage to your husband,ex husband was real and entered in good faith,and people making that affadavit,need to explain how to they are able to say that aka,know you very well,and him...examples etc.

You are the one having to establish the fact,your marriage was real and entered in good faith.The more proof and evidence you have the better.

At the interview,you better bring whatever u can and have,anything and everything...

honest to God,they will deny you,if you show up there with basically nothing and the attitude "if u deny me,i am remaried to another us citizen,i file new" won't make much difference.

Its all based on your original husband and how u got here.

Good Luck....

attorney may-be adviced

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Originally posted by davdah:
I don't know that it is such a good idea to use the x-mother-in-laws letter. How would you feel if your mother wrote to him the things she wrote to you. It wasn't appropriate and will probably do more harm than good. The X will see you as trying to divide his family. Forget about him saying anything positive if asked. He will scream fraud and anything else thought of for revenge.

Use everything else. You may even want to tell him your not going to include the letter. That may actually help to recruit him to your camp.

I think having ex-mother-in-law's letter is a good thing. Ex-husband doesn't need to know about it. Shelly filed I-751 with a waiver, so ex doesn't have to be present at the interview.

This whole thing is a nightmare!!! I did apsolutely nothing wrong and I feel like I am being treated like a criminal!!!

My ex-husband is a drug attic! Who in the world would want to stay with someone like that?? I have signed and NOTARIZED affidavits from several people on the stuff he used to put me through and from his own mother. Most of the letters are not just regular letters they are notarized but some are just letters.

AS for my new husband there is no doubt that it is a bona fide marriage!! Like I said before my husband is in the Air Force and I have a ton of people from the base that would support me in this. I am a key spouse for our squadron and a very key player as a spouse. We own a home, 2 cars, and of course we have a child together.

I understand what you are saying about how it might look to the INS but I would never trap someone into marrying me. I am CANADIAN!!!! There is no reason for me to leave my country!!!!!! I feel that you are ignoreing that fact.

As for using my ex-mother in law's affadavit of course I am going to use it. I could care less how my ex feels about it. He is crazy!! I had to fight to get my divorce from him. The man actually argued with my lawyer and the county clerk that we were already divorced because I went across the boarder to see my family. The man is nuts!! You have to have a divorce decree.

Were not coming down on you to say we don't belive you. The only point we're making is YOU know your situation and all the circumstances. USCIS doesnt know. They will by their job description look at things with some level of suspicion. That is why we hired them.

The only reason I brought up the mother-in-law letter is at some point he MAY be brought in if they decide to do any digging. Even though they are notorized, all that guarantees is the persons identity who wrote the letter. Not if its true or not. The letters will probably help as long as they are more of a listing of factual information and not opinions. The only valid opinion that would count is from a professional such as a doctor.

Be careful about demonizing your X too much. It may reflect on you since you did marry him.

In a nutshell playing devils advocate. Just be prepared.

Its ADDICT not attic; an attic is a space between your roof and the upper floor's ceiling. It does not matter that you are Canadian, lots if fraudsters there too.

AGAIN; if there is no proof that the first marriage was fraudulent based on court documents than you can adjust status on new mattiage if they deny the I-751 waiver based on a good faith marriage

The fact you are a Canadian,is actually a big difference as far fraud goes...compared to the same situation someone from Russia for example.

But ulitmately,you as a Canadian have to do,the exac same thing anyone else needs to do,form ANYWHERE else,to be here Legally.

I know how you feel,but this is honestly how INS views things.,therefore,make all your evidence in a way,so if a friend of yours reads it,looks at it should feel like "yeah,this look bonafide and truthful"....

Like I said,get sworn affadavits not only from your ex mom in law,but also friends that known you and your ex husband,who can attest,you guys married because of love and in good faith,and you guys lived as a married couple etc...

the fact he was taking drugs etc,should NOT be mentioned in the affadavits at all...

Remember,all INS cares about and wants to know,and ask you to proof it is, Was the marriage entered in Good Faith and was it Bonafide....

Why the marriage ended is stuff you can talk and tell at the interview...just remember,be really truthful and take some blame as well.
Do not talk your ex husband down too much,take some responsibility as well U know.
But you are a Canadian,so I know you already have good manners and some common sence in you ;-)

Just get alot of stuff as evidence though.
Don;t feel too bad, because remember,even a conditional resident who is still married,needs to proof the same thing as someone that is divorced and files for the I-751.
The evidence to support the marriage is or was real,is the same on both married immigrant or divorce immigrant.Remember that!

You'll be fine I assume...just bring evidence with you and honesty.

Good Luck

I am always honest so there is no doubt that I will bring that to the interview. I am just so tired of dealing with all of this stuff.

Why would putting the whole drug situation cause a problem in the statements? I actually believe that my mother wrote that in her statement. I have to look at it again because I cant remember what she wrote now.

All I want to do is tell them the truth but I feel that people still doubt me.

I have video's of my ex and I together would that help to bring those to the interview? I am not sure if they would actually take the time to watch them.